Dating Advice For Short Men
How important is height when it comes to dating a man? Is it shallow to be concerned about that?
Many women prefer a taller man over a shorter one. If you're a short man, don't worry. Matt and Tamsen declare that there are plenty of women out there who aren't concerned with that.
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I can totally relate. I am 5'4" tall and some times it get hard not to take it personal when you hear so many women prefer taller men. Some women have no sensitivity with that topic either. When most of the girls you talk to or approach turn you down because of your height it can knock your self esteem down a bit. I get dates just fine but I feel that i have too work twice as hard as a guy 5'9" or taller.
LOL, LOL, LOL HYSTERICALY!!!!!!!
at 5' 6" my reaction was exactically as GWEN86..go girl!........
thinking of bookmark's response... yes there are a lot of short woman. i have that as a search criteria but i would venture a guess more than 50% of the 5' 2" are saying they want at least 5' 10". it takes your breath away and your ego? to find a 4' 11" woman only to see she wants a man 6' 0" to 6" 6" i'm sure there are plenty of short (vertically challanged ) men can identify with what i'm saying. some woman say they like to look up or bend their neck back when they're kissed ,at least that makes sense and if that makes the kiss better great! but as Matt said we're all the same height in bed and is she going to keep jumping out of bed to kiss during love making to get that great kiss?LOL!!!!!
as always Morticai is so full of wisdom and right on there's only one like her. just like to be able to apply it all.
i think the comments i read are all very good ,thanks ladies XOXOXO
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In the first place, I've been dating a man who is 5" shorter than me, he asked me if his being shorter than me made any difference? I said, "No, your height doesn't matter to me, it's your personanlity that matters. People worry too much about the small things in a relationship, if your one of them, get over it. If the short guy makes you feel all woman, that's even better. It's just the guys ego's that gets in the way most of the time. And, the women who want the "tall, dark and handsome" type, she may be selling herself short for a low personality in the first place. MOst of the "tall, dark and handsome" ones have a personality flaw, they "know" their tall, dark and handsome and they want it to be known they're the ones that are sought after. WRONG, it's your personality that makes or breaks the relationship. The same goes for the women, it's the personality that makes or breaks the relationship, not your height. You may be beautiful in your eyes, but, in a man's eyes, your just OK. But, you have to hear "your beautiful". Another personality breaker, ladies, you "may" be gorgeous, just don't let it go to your head. Remember, if your trying to get someones attention, try to be alert to your signals, the other person is. Ladies, if you want to be treated like a lady, dress and act like a lady, gentlemen, if you want to be treated like a gentleman, dress and act like a gentleman. THINK ABOUT IT THINK ABOUT THE SIGNALS YOU ARE SENDING OUT.
My boyfriend is actually shorter than me. I think most women won't date someone taller than them because they are insecure or they think taller is a better quality. Plus, girls and young ladies grow up thinking 'prince charming' is tall, dark, and handsome. So, we aim high. Just like men can aim high too making women feel insecure. There are certain downsides to dating a shorter guy. But nothing that would completely stop a woman from pursuing the love of her life. I agree with Matt & Tamsen to move on and just be aware the kind of girls you are chasing. But I also agree with Gwen86 that 5'8 is average and far from short. Short is like 5'4, 5'5. No matter what height you are, confidence is key. And if a girl likes you, great. Expect hesitation but if you have something awesome to offer, you will never be short of dates.
OK, I totally agree that plenty of girls like short guys (I'm one of them), but the way they presented it was total bullshit. Firstly, what is with Matt acting like he is a short guy with a "napoleonic complex"? I mean, he is 5'9". Last time I checked, that is the average height for a man in America. And then, what was with him saying, "Plenty of women like a guy between 5'8" and 6'0""? Is he trying to say that if you are 5'7" then women won't like you? Short guys can get dates just fine, but not if they have a weird complex about it.
