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10 Things Not To Say To An Overweight Man

Love handles, hungry butt, and ten other things not to say to your more-to-love man.

In all your concern about cellulite and bikini body, you may have lost sight of the fact that guys are also self-conscious about being overweight. Seriously—nearly 45 percent of men claim to be dissatisfied with their bodies for one reason or another. And considering there's an obesity epidemic going on, there's good reason for that.

So, while you may think that guys can take a little extra teasing about love handles, bingo wings and hungry butt, don't be so quick to call him out on those extra pounds. Specifically, avoiding the following oversize offensives will help you keep from leaving a bad taste in his mouth. Lemondrop: 5 Mistakes All Women Make

10. "Maybe you should hit the gym."
Even if you're harboring the best intentions, you're gonna sound like a gym teacher barking orders during the shuttle run. Instead, go to the gym yourself, and welcome his company.

9. "I like a little meat on the bones."
We appreciate your tolerance, but that's like us saying, "We like the way you fart when you laugh too hard."

8. "Are your parents overweight?"
Is that a nice way of saying "obesity is a genetic predisposition"? While true, it's not the best conversation starter.

7. "Let's skip dinner tonight."
Not eating can be just as counterproductive as eating too much (except starving ourselves isn't as delicious). In order to burn fat, your body needs to fuel its metabolism, and not eating shuts that down. Rather than skipping dinner, offer up a meal of chicken breast, whole grains, salmon, steak, apples, peanut butter, turkey or unidentifiable drugstore-packet energy pills, all of which speed up the body's metabolism. Lemondrop: Do You Eat Healthier Around Men?

6. "Looks don't matter to me."
Then why draw attention to the fact that we're not Abercrombie catalog fodder, instead of not mentioning it?

5. "I never liked six-packs and pelvic dips anyway."
See above. Again, we get what you're trying to do—show us that you like us for reasons other than cosmetic. But even mentioning what we don't have could plant an unwanted seed of insecurity.

4. "You must be really funny, huh?"
Yeah, you'd think that, thanks to the likes of Seth Rogen, Jonah Hill and Chris Farley. And, by that same logic, since you're a girl, you must be emotionally unstable and know nothing about football, huh? Lemondrop: Does Being Funny Make a Guy Hot?

3. "Muscle weighs more than fat!"
Wrong! Five pounds of muscle weighs exactly the same as five pounds of fat. Fat happens to be bulky, though, while muscle is tight and appears lean. This contrast creates the illusion that there is more fat per pound than muscle. Try this instead: "Muscle is heavier by volume than fat."

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Jadailha Single I'm a romantic failure
Can't Relate - Posted September 21, 2009

Are normal weight individuals like myself just not popular or desired since over 60% of the American population is either overweight or obese?

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VixenVena Single Cosmic Space Vixen
Can't Relate - Posted September 16, 2009

Since when did men become such sissy pants that they can't handle being reminded that they're becoming overly obese and should start doing something about it? Call me an insensitive biatch, but if my guy were starting to pack on the pounds, I wouldn't care about keeping his feelings intact. I'd make it clear that he needs to watch his health and his weight.

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BookMama Married Happily Married
Posted September 17, 2009

I have not found nagging to be a good way to get a guy to do anything. I haven't experimented with criticism, but I wouldn't recommend it. You want the guy to look forward to seeing you.

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Qverb Taken Rugburns, sarcasm, giggling, beautiful
Posted September 17, 2009

Yeah, I tend to dig my heels in when I feel like someone is being negatively critical of my weight gain. Its hard enough seeing myself in a mirror and remembering what I looked like when I was in dancer shape. Now, I ride a desk all day and hardly ever get to go out to show sites to install equipment, which used to help keep me in shape.

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Lyz Married Community Manager
Posted September 17, 2009

Oh the insults we justify in the name of "health"

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BookMama Married Happily Married
Posted September 16, 2009

From the point of view of an overweight woman, these are good tips of things not to say to a woman, too.

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poison_ivy Taken humbling, amazing, fulfilling, everything
Can Relate - Posted September 16, 2009

hhhmmm.. my boyfriend is very self-conscious when it comes to his physical appearance. i'm a very simple gal and i only started being really conscious about the way i look when i met him.

anyway, it isn't a bad thing to be self-conscious. it's not being vain but loving yourself.

thanks for the great tips here.

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