The date is over, now the hard part begins. What to do in the first few days that follow.
When's he going to call? Should you call him? What's an appropriate amount of time to wait?
Here are some guidelines to keep in mind:
Sleep on it. Give yourself some time to assess your feelings and the date itself.
Don't be afraid to call him. Haven't heard from him yet? Give him a call. A lot of women are afraid to take the initiative on this one, for fear of seeming desperate or over eager. But that's just silly and outdated! A lot of men will respect you for having the guts to follow up. And if this guy doesn't, he's probably not worth your time anyway. How To Woo Him With Your Phone Voice
But, don't call if you have nothing to say. Know of a show you'd like to invite him to? Give him a call. Or maybe you saw something that reminded you of a conversation you had. By all means, tell him about it. But if you're calling just to sit awkwardly on the other end of the phone, waiting for him to say something meaningful, you're wasting both your time and his.
Know when to back off. If you find that you're the only one making any sincere effort after the first, second, or third date, it may be time to cut your losses and move on. Don't project your own feelings of interest onto him or you might just find you're having a relationship with yourself. Let him reach out to you. If he doesn't, onwards and upwards! Life is too short and you're too awesome to be making all the effort.
And what if you don't like him? How do you break the news?
Be Kind. Think about how you'd want to be treated if you were the rejectee. Nothing is worse than being left in the dark. If your date expresses interest in pursuing the relationship, a phone call or email will go a long way towards giving the both of you piece of mind.
Be Honest. Or as close to it as possible, without hurting his feelings. Tell your date that, although you enjoyed meeting him, you didn't feel there was any chemistry or potential for the long term, and so you aren't interested in taking it any further. It's not easy to say, but you'll feel so much better once you've done it. Need a good one-liner to get you started? Try I'm not feeling what I need to be feeling to … [fill in the blank]. Whether the ending to that phrase is "to continue seeing you romantically," "to pursue anything beyond platonic friendship," or "to keep footing the bill for all our dates," this start can be helpful both in person and in email. How To Break Up With A Man: Don't Be Ambiguous
Don't Fool Yourself — or Him. If you know for sure that it could never go anywhere, don't give him another shot just to be nice. You'll just end up getting his hopes up. He'll continue to pursue you and you'll have to have the talk all over again.