The Secrets Behind Serial Monogamy

"Even though I’ve left the guys behind, I’ve learned something important about myself in each relationship," says self-proclaimed serial monogamist Jessica Chan. "That’s what motivates me to go out and try it again."

The country rallied behind Obama's campaign for change. It appealed to our understanding of the power that change can have on our lives—and this goes for relationships, too.

I started my research on serial monogamy hoping to find out the secrets of those who practice it (can I fast-forward from breakup to honeymoon stage next time?), but I realize now that it's more about finding that style that feels natural for each of us. Genetics, compromise, whatever—knowing ourselves is the real thing to strive for.

"I don’t think there's anything wrong with being in multiple long-term relationships," says Chan. "We're not all insecure or all delusional. It's just what works for us."In Relationships, Does "Normal" Exist?

Written by Allie Firestone for DivineCaroline

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