Life After Infidelity And Widowhood

The problem that my husband had was that everything had to be racheted up to a greater intensity of wonderfulness. And that's just not how everyday life is. There's an enormous amount of tedium in everyday life. Especially when you are running and taking care of a family, there's going to be plenty of that. If you can't find a way to get some kind of pleasure from that then you're sunk.

When you look back at the times with your friends, your loved ones, or your kids, it really is those little moments that are ultimately very important—those are the real exchanges. Going to the great concert or the wild party, that's fun and everything but that's not when you do the real stuff of your life. I have tried very hard to pay attention to those little moments. And again it's not always easy; sometimes you get bogged down with your work or your clients need things and you lose your temper. We all are just people. The good news is that you can always keep trying.