Have You Dated These Toxic Singles?



When it comes to dating, there are specific types of men and women that we know we should avoid. Well, most people know to avoid them. Others, actually many, of us don't see the warning signs until it's too late.  They are what we refer to as "that" guy or girl. You know, "He was
bragging about how he loves to go down on women. He was 'that guy.' "
Are you or have you ever dated any of these people?
The Know It All - They challenge everything you
have to say. They can pull out facts and figures and data and
statistics that you haven't a clue whether are true or not. They always
magically have a friend that's somehow connected to the topic whom they
use to support their argument. As in, "No, it's true. My friend worked
there for a year and said he saw them do it." They always have to have
the last word to the point where you don't bother saying anything
because you know they aren't listening to you.
The Chandler Bing - They're always a little too
self-deprecating or tell one too many jokes. They make fun of
themselves and publicize their neurotic tendencies because they think
it makes them endearing. really, it just makes them appear insecure.
The female version usually points out what they perceive are their
physical flaws and joke about how they are perpetually single. What
they're really doing, and are totally unaware of it, is trying to push
people away and not look too close. They think by airing their own
flaws and making them public, nobody will feel compelled to look
deeper. That way people won't see how truly fucked up they are.
The Sex Machine - We've all met this "that
guy/girl."  They make sexually provocative comments that they KNOW are
sexually provocative, then act all demure and say it's us with the
dirty mind. They brag about how sexually confident they are, they bring
up sexual topics thinking it makes them sound provocative or intriguing
hoping for a response from someone. The signal they're really sending
is that they are completely emotionally stunted and they know it, so
they use sex to distract. Then when they let their crazy flag fly, they
hope the person will be invested enough to over look it. They crave
intimacy badly to the point of feeling so lonely and alienated that
they want to rush the relationship from first date to commitment in one
night. They want to skip all the messy and hard stuff. They want to be
accepted and loved and cared for an touched. They want intimacy but
they're too afraid to take things slow because they fear someone will
see their flaws and flee. And they think that because that's exactly
what has happened in the past. Almost every time.
The Ball Buster - I saw an example of this on Dating In The Dark
last night. The guy just continued to give this girl a hard time by
being sarcastic and dismissive. Of course, this is done to keep the
other person on their toes and on the defensive. The people who do this
are people who are terrified of being vulnerable and getting hurt.
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