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Are you a nightmare date? Benefits of being poorly endowed. An orgasm caught on MRI.

It's a hump day. Here is the best stuff the interwebs had to offer about love, relationships and a little bit of sex this week.

My homegirls, Em & Lo (, have a crazy video taken from a MRI machine. Essentially, it shows a couple having intercourse and the woman achieving an orgasm. I suppose I owe someone a buck, the female orgasm does exist... Not safe for work, it being a MRI of two people making whoopie and all.

Yoibles. Over at Asylum, a fellow called Alan Weider pimps his book The Year Of The C**k with a list of 13 benefits of being poorly endowed. Somehow "being able to sit down on the toilet and not worrying about touching the water" didn't make the list. I'm hoping he gets a cameo on Hung next season.

The gang at Cosmopolitan realize that it's possible to have a real sweetheart of relationship with a real snoozer of a sex life. They give tips on how to relish the former and repair the latter. Big Jim Slade, interestingly, is not mentioned as a solution.  

As part of their "deal breaker or not a deal breaker" series, Glamour asks if being taken to a fast food restaurant on a date is a red flag the size of an African elephant (bulls weigh around 15,000 lbs). Two questions: 1) Which fast food joint? If you're from somewhere they don't have Chick-fil-a and he takes you to one, you may should feel obligated to do stuff that there's not even names for.* 2) Are we talking under "normal" conditions or during this drive-by fruiting of an economy? Valentine's Day At Wendy's

Over at the Huffington Post, Rebecca Booth, PhD, makes a connection that few other people would have between Prop 8 and menopause. It's not an end-of-Usual-Suspects level revelation, but a good question, if a touch hair-splitty.

Jezebel has a quick commentary on the job-loss situation in which the term "breadwinner wives" has been coined. The downturn has hurt men more than women in terms of job-loss. Rosie The Riveter made do, though her husband was away fighting Jerry, not home watching The Price Is Right while desperately trying to find any way to provide for his family.

Marie Claire is not missing you on the breadwinner debate. The "she," Ms. Diane Vilibert, thinks that it's perfectly acceptable for a woman to be the breadwinner (yet she doesn't quote Mr. Mom). And the "he," Mr. Abraham Lloyd, thinks that most guys are a little too prideful to be drastically out-earned by their spouse (yet he references Sex And The City).

The team at Divine Caroline asks a scary question: what if the nightmare dates you go on are your fault? It does sort of make you feel a little crazy when no one sees that the emperor has no clothes but you, right? I mean Mad Men isn't really that great, is it?

The catch-all anonymous blogger at Lemondrop has a secret to share: she has a fetish for the effeminate. OK, maybe it's not a fetish. Maybe she just has a type: sort of gay guys. It's a funny read and it makes me a little self-conscious about my perfect eyebrows.  

My buddy Lost Plum is willing to try lots of stuff. She even gave the dropping fruit at the supermarket trick a test run to little avail. Imagine her surprise when that trick worked on her... Found Plum, more like it.

Writing a brutally honest dating blog is not for wimps. Eventually, you have to let people that you're dating in on the secret. Do it too late and they could feel betrayed... do it too soon and they could get spooked, Simone Grant ( thinks she may have discovered the sweet spot.

With Diablo Cody's sophomore effort Jennifer's Body set to hit theaters in September, The Frisky takes on beautiful friends. Sometimes beautiful women, they say, use their looks as a weapon even against their own friends. Harumph, don't they know that sex-appeal is only supposed to be used against men? Have they never seen The Dukes Of Hazzard?

And, finally, at the home office, a YourTango user called And That's Why Your Single breaks down the primary eleven reasons that women dump men. Agree or disagree with her logic, it's a good read and a great place to get into the conversation.

As always, hit me with sites that seem up my alley and I'll see what's what.

*You are never obligated to "put out," but if there was a time when you should, it's after eating Chick-fil-a.


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