Do You Hate Your Pretty Friends?
Don't turn your pretty friend into "the enemy," here's why!
Ryan asked us this morning what kind of men we prefer to date. I want to talk about what kind of girlfriends we like having. Okay, let's be honest—you know which of your friends are beautiful. You know when your friend gets more guys than you.
I have some beautiful friends. And I like looking at them. Period. I do not feel competition (but then again, an ex once called me the "least competitive person on the planet"). Some women feel threatened by their prettier peers. Why do we do this, girls? I know that insecurity plays a part, but I mean, let's all try to enjoy our friends' beauty. And don't forget the perks: Let her get you into the club. Let some guy try to impress her by buying all her friends a round of drinks! Maybe the guy hitting on her has some funny friends you can talk to. Ain't no shame sifting through the leftovers. Pretty People Get Free Things
Now if my friends were always getting guys and I was always getting ignored, then I might need to find additional friends that would make me feel more like a big fish in a small pond. It's a tough call. Patti Stanger, the Millionaire Matchmaker says you're not supposed to look for men at the gym because that's where there are loads of thinner, younger, prettier women wearing Spandex. This is sage advice, but I also believe that pretty friends are not the enemy. Average Is The New Hot
Now let's discuss: Are your friends prettier than you? Do they have more game? Are you confident and comfortable with having pretty friends?
Written by Erin Meanley for Single-ish.
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Discussion
Maybe it was the whole high-school mentality, but I hated that all my friends were prettier than me, had more money than me, got more boys/free stuff/whatever than me. And me being friends with them truly had no added benefit to me, as THEY were the ones that got the freebies while I got nothing. They got the guys and I didn't. They had money to spend on nice clothes and I didn't. Turns out they weren't as great of friends as I thought, but that's a whole other can of worms.
I guess it's dependent on each situation, but it's safe to say that my experiences weren't really in alignment with the general majority.
No, I don't hate them. Once I was complimenting a friend on how lovely she looked and I admitted to being a little jealous of how easy it was for her to look great and she started crying and told me that she never thought that about herself. That when she looked in the mirror all she saw were flaws and I realized that even the most beautiful women envy someone elses looks. And I always remind myself of that when I look in the mirror or I am tempted to criticize my body. Someone else looks at me and sees beauty, why can't I?
Unlike men, women are judged for their beauty. From childhood to old age. Just look at the large numbers of beauty contests for young girls. For women, appearance is essential, it's sad but true.
What's horrible is that women fight each other based on standards of beauty, and women have made many wealthy to achieve beauty.
Several of my facebook friends, both male and female, have commented on the beautiful women among my facebook friends. First, it surprised me that they even noticed enough to comment. But, then some of the women's comments were vicious!!!
For example:
"When I saw all those young beautiful girls listed on your facebook as *Friends* I was amazed. Who wants old expired milk when you can probably get ... More fresh cream pie!!! And look how lovely draped on your arm! Probably under thirty or maybe 25, easily maneuvered, no internal scars, yet,energetic"
