Where do I start ..... I have been married for 5 years together for 9. It has been good up until a few years after we got married. I don't know what happened to him but he just got extra lazy (meaning to comfortable) in our marriage as he calls it. I never understood what happened to him there's no way in hell your that comfortable with someone. I could leave today or tommorow. How can someone be that secure in a marriage if were fighting all the time meaning me cause he never says anything unless I ask him to.