Is It Better For A Man To Be Funny Or Rich?
What's more important: laughter or security?
In the first episode of Entourage this season, Turtle, a frumpy-but-lovable goofball, is utterly confused by the premise of Knocked Up. He can think of no possible rationale for beautiful Katherine Heigl's character taking dumpy Seth Rogen's character home and becoming impregnated with his baby.
The unattractive-man-bags-attractive-woman situation is not unfamiliar—in Entourage Turtle dates a woman played by Jamie Lynn Sigler (and in a bit of life imitating art, the two fell for each other during filming and are now dating in real life); in According to Jim, Courtney Thorne Smith is married to Jim Belushi; Everybody Loves Raymond, King Of Queens, Yes Dear, all show a not-hot man landing a blazing wife.
So the question is, why would an absurdly hot chick want to bang a schlub? We've been told a sense of humor and a heart-of-gold do the trick, but inquiring minds find this to be a specious premise.
Over at Shine, a male user asked women to tell him what's more attractive: the funny or the money? Obvs, it depends on the woman—some love to laugh. Plus, everyone loves a funny-man, laughter is the best medicine, a man can never be poor as long as he has laughter, etc. But in the long run it's hard to trade jokes for food, shelter and the occasional vacation to San Sebastian.
AskMen, never ones to miss a beat, lets their lady columnist, Christina Colangalo, ride on this question. Rather than comparing cheddar to chuckles, she measures humor against several important male attributes, including looks, ambition, wealth and intelligence. Joke making and joke taking acquit themselves quite well in comparison to other personality and personal characteristics, it would seem.
Overall, the ability to make someone laugh seems pretty important to broads. But… I'm not buying it. When many women say "sense of humor," they mean "easy-going and self-deprecating"… or Hugh Grant. (Is he actually funny?) Sure, knowing that someone doesn't take himself too seriously is a plus, but is it something you would trade for knowing that a guy a can provide for a family? Sounds like a stretch. Read: How To Choose A Husband
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I HAVE HAD DATED FUNNY MEN WHO WERE BROKE. I THINK ITS TIME I MADE A CHANGE.
ANY RICH MEN AVAILABLE!
I'm currently 29 turning 30 and I have a lifetime filled with funny broke guys. I've always had the better car, apartment, credit score, bank account and job. I've had lots of laugh, but I'm actually tired of it.
I'll take the rich guy now.
I'm tired of not being able to take vacations or go out to nice places. There's a whole world out there I've been unable to explore because my partner doesn't have the money. Now I've had a lot of adventures with my girlfriends and family because I'm never one to wait around for anyone. But I've been to so many places that were romantic but I'm with my girlfriends instead. I'm tired of that crap! I currently have no kids and I always wonder....God! What if I had gotten pregnant by one of those guys?? I sure as hell couldn't depend on child support from them, they're broke!!!
Laughs don't pay the bills. And as someone said earlier those laughs melt away pretty quickly when you have creditors calling the house and can't pay the rent.
I agree with you and what Lyz points out, I'll explain my opinion.
Comslave, I agree with you that most women and men looks for certain traits in a partner and it's all about how we are wired as humans. Men are and will always be the more visual of the sexes. Looks are most always more important for us as men when we are looking for a girlfriend. Don't get me wrong, other things matter a lot also, but if she is not very attractive, changes are she is not someone that we will want to form a lasting relationship with. Point here is that men go for looks when it comes to finding a woman.
While I do believe that women want a guy who has some sort of sense of humor, I full well believe 100 percent in my opinion that what women realllllllllllly go for is a guy who has a fat wallet.
Look at some examples here as proof to why I think this. You could have a very nice guy who treats a woman well but if he don't have a ton of money, he is most likely going to be seen as average and going to be dumped in time. Now let's look at rich men. Rich men actually can get nearly any woman they want regardless of things like age difference, attitude towards women, weither they cheat on them or not ect.
Examples. Movies "stars" can get nearly any woman they want because they have lots of money and are famous. Women like a guy with money and status.
Example 2 I watched a tv show that talked about Hugh Hefner's life. LOL Ok, this dude is 83 years old!! Women in there 20s flock all over at the chance to move in with the guy. Why? Because he is rich and famous.
Here is the thing about all this. If Hugh was not famous and not rich and still trying to get the young women like he does, you can bet he would be mocked at as being a dirty old man and NO woman would give him the time of day.
Money and fame gets the women to come to a man. Looks, beauty gets many men to want to date a woman.
Lyz. I fully agree with you that not all women are like the examples I give. It's great knowing that not all women are like this however I wanted to point some things out that I find very interesting, it's what leads me to believe all that I've said.
In terms of how we are wired as humans, a sense of humor could be something that helps guys get mates. Assuming it's a sign of intelligence, women might be attracted to it as a sign that the guy has good genes.
Rich men can't get nearly any women they want. They can get women, but they aren't the nicest women. A guy Hefner's age is getting women who are willing to trade sex for money. That is definitely not the way all women are hard-wired. We're humans and much more complex than that.
I think it's a big mistake to believe that women aren't visual. Scientists have found that women find certain kinds of faces sexy. Some women will marry men for money, but they're probably still attracted to the hot-looking young guy.
As you mentioned, that’s assuming that to be the case. Assuming that is true, it still seems to be a less important role as oppose to selecting a mate for money. I’ll have to disagree with you about rich men not getting nearly any woman they want. You mentioned that they get women but they aren’t the nicest of women. Keep in mind that what is a “nice” person to one person is not so nice in another persons eye. I believe there are nice women who look for a man with money, to think otherwise would be unfair to a very large group of women. It don’t make them wrong or bad for doing so, it just means that it’s something that is important to them. The same applies for most men who want to want to find a very nice looking woman. In regards to what you pointed out about humans being much more complex. I agree that we are more complex however it doesn’t mean that certain factors don’t still tend to take a front seat over other factors when looking for that special someone. I never said that women are not visual or that they don’t have preferences when looking for a man, I agree they do. I said that in general, men are the much more visual in terms of finding a mate rather then women. Thanks for the reply though even though we don’t fully agree, I enjoy reading other peoples points of view on these topics.
Well firstly, you may be surprised how quickly a sense of humor can vanish if financial times are difficult. Secondly these are platitudes. Is the humorous guy wealthy? I am sure Turtle is well off in real life. Is the wealthy man necessarily unattractive? I think a lot of females still respond better to the male with "power" and in this day and age that can be a monetary thing. I'm perfectly happy to be the humorous guy myself haha.
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Hey MaliMali, I like the idea of a bad boy/ bad girls post. I feel like there's a natural tendency people to be attracted to "dangerous" people, at least in the short term. There's a funny line in the movie Roger Dodger about women liking a sense of humor but if two lean, mean, play by their own rules motorcycle-riding men came in beat up the two funny, guys that the ladies would become "weak in the knees."
Always thought it was a funny line.
I suppose it's probably better to be funny and rich... and good-looking and charming and kind and tough and smart and handy...
Although it's great to be with someonne who can support my family, I've never asked anyone to and can't see it ever happening because that puts them in a position to take it away. I support my family. You can't take funny away. Funny for me is personal, to know what I find amusing, you have to get to know me. That's the person that I want to be with. Rich guys are great to go out with because they like nice things so they don't take you to cheap places (I like free food, it's not a crime!!) but at least here in Las Vegas, all they talk about is themselves and the money, and golf trips, and blah blah blah. I won't put up with that just to have my bills paid when I'm capable of paying for my life needs while laughing with someone. I'd say, marry the funny guy, bang the money, kill the badboy and steal his car.
