Do Men Care If Women Wear Eye Makeup?
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Funny that this question is asked while the hostess is wearing a LARGE quantity of eye makeup... only Siouxie Sioux wears much more than what is in the clip... (grin)
Here's a link to a number of pictures via google's image search in the event you are unfamilliar with Siouxie and her extreme eye makeup...: http://images.google.com/images?hl=en&source=hp&q=siouxsie&um=1&ie=UTF-8...
I grew up with a mother who wore very little if any makeup. In my opinion, makeup can help, but most females put way too much on. I personally think that my wife is beautiful with out eye make up. When I think back on past relationships, almost all of my girlfriends were girls that did not wear a ton of makeup.
I think most guys are neutral about the subject, it's pretty much a girl's thing. The best make-up is the one that goes unnoticed; so, when a woman wears a discrete makeup that's been applied competently, our inner reaction is not "Hey she wears makeup!" (actually we don't notice that) but rather "Wow, she's damn hot today/tonight!"
IMO, it's only right and legitimate that a woman uses eye make-up to enhance her look, eyes usually play a great role in non-verbal communication so wearing eye-makeup denotes a willingness to generate attraction. For example, in the occasion of a date it's rather flattering for a guy that the woman had put that extra effort especially for him.
There are guys, indeed, who dislike makeup because they judge it sluttish or deceitful (or both) but really, ladies, don't mind them, they're douches anyway.
I second this--the best make-up is the "non-noticed" makeup (unless you are a clown or in Circ Du Solei--or you are "on-air talent" who is about to be on camera and I am standing next to you).
As a guy, if I notice a woman is wearing makeup (and I'm not on a photo-shoot), it's usually because it is either too-much makeup being worn (as in the case of the eye make-up of the lady in the video) or it is because I watched her apply it.
To directly answer the question of the posting, though, I'd say most men simply do not care if a woman wears eye makeup--or ANY makeup, unless she is wearing too much of it.
There are definitely men who prefer women without make-up or with natural-looking make-up. In my experience, it is a class and age thing. So if you are trying to attract an older professional man, go natural or just use light make-up.
I think Matt is right, though, when he says a man may not know a woman is wearing make-up.
My boyfriend always tells me to take my eyemakeup off.. all of it.. i'm always in black eye liner, and don't like being without it, but I occasionally make an exception for him!
My boyfriend is always teeling me the same, no make up. You´re beautiful, you don´t need that, bla, bla. What next? Don´t shave?
He even tells me that i look better without nail polish.....Since we have a Long Distance Relationship and we see each other 4 times a year, I agree with with and I do not wear nail polish (hand) and wear a litlle/very light make up.
I think guys get tired of fake girls, with fake air, boobies, nails, butt....and they just wanna see your girl natural.
Eye make-up catches my attention, but I was cured of caring if my woman uses it after dating one who made us late for everything. Always always late for everything. Drove me nuts. My wife hardly ever wears make-up - pretty much just for weddings - and I don't care. She looks fine without it.
Gauntlet, THANK YOU!! Thanks so much for confirming what I always thought!! Men do like women who take the time to make themselves attractive and presentable!!
Men don't think that we notice, but we do!! I've always noticed that men notice attractive women. Yes, I've noticed that they are more attracted to those women that take the time to do the hair, color, perms, relaxers, braids, etc. I've also noticed that men notice when women are well groomed and polished!!
I notice when men are well groomed, and I must admit I'm more attracted to men that are healthy, in decent shape, clean, well dressed and groomed. I mean he doesn't need to be in a suit all the time, but he does need to be clean! Nothing is more gross than a man that refuses to take care of himself. I have no problem with men that have the same preference!
Thanks Jadailha, I'm sure there are men who maybe don't care as much about make up but most do. You brought up some great points too in regards to how most women view men.
Men in general are very visual creatures, we notice everything that our lady does. I feel it's important to acknowledge what she is doing and compliment a lady when she puts on a nice outfit or puts on her make up. No matter what, people like to feel acknowledged when they put effort into anything they do no matter how long a person has been together, everybody likes to feel appreciated.
As you pointed out with women, you ladies notice the details also even if you may not say it, it shows. Wither we just ran to the closet to grab whatever we could find and ran out the door or weither we took that extra time and effort. Women also notice wither we bother to trim our finger nails or if we just let them go and let the dirt build up. eeeek I know, I agree unkept body, eeeeek lol.
A little time in the mirror goes a long way for both sexes.
For the most part, I prefer a woman sans makeup. I have seen a couple women who really do a great job with their makeup (and when I saw them without the makeup I understood why, not ugly, but it was 4 pm and she looked like she just rolled out of bed).
Either way, I'm not fussy about it. If she wants to, then great. I see it and I appreciate it when we are going out for someting special, but it really doesn't do anything for me when she needs to put on makeup when we are just running into the store to grab some milk. If she chooses not to then also fine by me, regardless of situation. No matter how often I let her know how gorgeous she is she still has a really hard time believing it, and its not because of my cheese-tastic delivery.
my boyfriend hates when i wear make up in general. he doesn't like when i change my hair color or get piercings or anything. he wants to keep me as natural as possible and it drives me crazy cuz i like make up and especially piercings and i don't like to stay looking the same for too long.
I don't feel like I look any worse because I don't spend 2 hours doing my make-up. I take care of myself and I make and effort to look nice, but I don't think that means that I have to look artificial. I will wear makeup when I have to take pictures or when I have to attend a nice event. I think women that take time to do their makeup usually do look great, but I am not them. I felt pretty bad when my guy said he thought I should wear makeup because I would look better. I told him that if I don't look good enough then nothing is stopping him from finding someone he would rather look at. It's been over a year now, but I still wonder why he bothers to stay with someone who isn't pretty enough...
Symian, try to not take offence when your guy makes a comment about make up. I can understand how you or women in general might look at it in a negative way but here is my advice coming from a guy who likes make up on women.
I believe that what your man is trying to expess is that he finds that when you put make up on it is like putting iceing on the cake so to speak. It does NOT mean that he don't find you attractive, it just means that he is letting you know that when you take that time, it shows and he finds you extra sexy that way. He is not saying your ugly, hes just expressing what he finds sexy.
Let's use another example that applies for both men and women and is not about make up for a moment.
Why do men and women care that their partner makes sure they smell nice, dresses in nice clothes and so on? Because it makes that person feel good and makes them more confident and attractive, not only to themselves but to others. Sure you might be fine if your partner puts on the first item of clothes that they see in their closet in the morning, it's still the same person under the clothes right.. ? But when you see them in a shirt or pair of pants that fits them well and is nice, it puts that extra sparkle in your eye for them, does it not? It also makes them feel good as well.
So try not to be offended, your guy is just letting you know how darn attractive you look with that makeup or that nice pair of jeans that fit you better then the baggy ones that are easier to wear sometimes as a example.
You know, from a guys point of view, I would welcome if I had a girlfriend who said to me, 'hey you know what, I really like it when you wear that cologne rather then her just saying, 'oh just wear whatever'
It's one thing to smell nice and iron clothes, but I'd never tell him how I think he could improve his looks if he did this or that, I can just go out and find someone better looking, I like him how he is. I hate having to put on makeup so I don't feel like a dog, or feeling like he must find everyone else in the room more attractive just because I feel prettier when I go natural. I don't feel like cologne or clothes change the look of a person. I don't care as long as he's clean and he has clean clothes on. But when someone wants you to change the way you look or enhance your apparently boorish natural looks, it makes more sense to go find someone out there who fits the bill. I don't care if others find me attractive, I'm not trying to sleep with Las Vegas. I don't care what others think of my clothes or my hair or my perfume, they don't pay my bills and have no influence in my life. If the person who chose to be with me doesn't feel that I'm pretty enough, I don't want him to feel like he's trapped in a relationship with an ogre, I want him to go find someone who can make him happy and will change herself to be what he wants because I'm not that girl. I've finally learned to accept that I'm not beautiful or model material but I'm happy with my looks and I wouldn't change them or enhance them for anything really except major events and pictures. I'm sure my guy womders why I rarely accompany him out anymore, it's because I don't want him to feel like he's out with a 4 when there's MAC packin' 10's running around.
Personally speaking, I care! I like women who take the time to put make up on. Eye make up accentuates the natural beauty of the eyes and draws more attention to a woman. The key is don't overdo it ladies.
As for looks, there is nothing more attractive then when a woman takes the time to put on make up and she dresses and smells nice. Even if I might not normally be attracted to a certain woman, I will always notice when a women does these things because it tells me she cares enough about herself to do it, if for no other reason then that.
To say that guys don't notice though is not true, I notice within moments I see a woman if she wears eye make up and so forth.
I don't know.... I love wearing eye makeup, BUT more than once have I had boyfriends who said they prefer me plain faced.
