Did She Dump Him Because He's Broke

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Did She Dump Him Because He's Broke

My
question is this... is timing everything? I loved this woman so much, but I
really feel that things have run their course, and I won't be able to ever renew
our relationship. I am not afraid that I won't ever meet another woman or that I
won't fall in love again... I guess my question is, is love and a satisfying
relationship possible when each person is not mutually fully satisfied by the
relationship? I would have happily continued our relationship, I loved her, but
I did not feel that she felt the same about me...But I feel it is virtually
impossible to find a person who is as in love with you as you are with them,
especially if you are a guy... did I make the wrong move in breaking up with
her? Every self respecting bone in my body says I didn't, but my heart says I
did.  |Age: 34

I guess my question is, is love and a satisfying
relationship possible when each person is not mutually fully satisfied by the
relationship?

Wait.
THAT'S your question? John, this woman was extremely selfish. She
didn't make much of an effort to get to know your family and wouldn't
even shell out the $50 to get you two into a club. She treated you
poorly. She dismissed you and your feelings. Dare I say she never
really even cared for you.

This woman represents something to
you. That's what you're holding on to. That's what you are drawn to.
Something about her makes you feel "good enough." You're trying to get
her approval somehow. You feel compelled to prove to her that you are
good enough, that you're not some loser or door mat. But the only
person telling you that you are those things is you. So that is where I
would start. You need to fix how you feel about yourself before you can
ever attract someone who deserves you and treats you well.

This
is similar to the women who date the guys with the nice cars and great
loft apartments and who take them to upscale places to eat and lounge.
They're not so much in love with him, the person. They're in love with
the trappings and status that comes with dating him. To make this more
relatable, it's like the shy studious bookworm dating the popular
cheerleader or football player. Suddenly, because that "in" person has
bestowed acceptance upon them, they now have the social proof they
always craved.

This girl is your head cheerleader. You need to
deal with why you ever would allow someone to treat you this way and
why you tolerated it. Why do you need her approval? Forget about timing
and fate and all that. Focus on you or else you will keep attracting
these types of women.

As for this:

I guess my question is, is love and a satisfying
relationship possible when each person is not mutually fully satisfied by the
relationship?

The
answer is simple. No, it's not possible to have a satisfying
relationship when each person is unsatisfied. It's not possible to have
a healthy relationship when only one person is unsatisfied.

But I feel it is virtually
impossible to find a person who is as in love with you as you are with them,
especially if you are a guy

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