The Beauty Of Dating At 40
Forget about clinging to your twenties and thirties. Great things that happen when you turn 40.
1. You Learn To Appreciate Your Body. At 26 I was a sexy size 8. I also had the metabolism of a 26 year old, which was the main reason I was a size 8. At 33 I was a size 12, at 36 a size 14, at 37 almost a size 16. At 40, an age when a lot of people just naturally slow down, I trimmed down to a size 10/12. Why? Because I didn't take my body for granted like I did at 30. At 30 my body just was what it was because of my genes and metabolism. The body I have now is one I earned by working for it. I learned to appreciate the body I now have and not take it for granted. You won't see us bathing in the sun or out boozing til 3 am and looking haggard or weathered for two days after. We stopped frying our hair with dyes and irons and treatments. We moisturize, we drink less, we spa and steam, we work out, we eat better than we did in our twenties and thirties because we know the benefits.
2. You Learn to Appreciate Life Itself More. The older you get, the more likely it is that you'll lose people close to you. From 30 - 40 I experienced some profound losses in my life. Nothing makes you realize how life can change in an instant like an unexpected loss. 5 Reasons To Grow Old With Someone
3.You Learn to Value Sex More. You've had the flings and the one night stand. You've had the hot three times a night sessions. But by 40 you've been around the block enough to learn how great sex is, how much better it is, when you're having it with someone you trust and respect. You're okay with saying no and heading home to watch TV or go to the gym or just hanging by yourself. You don't "need" the sex. You'd like it, sure. But you just don't feel compelled to screw someone because they make you feel pretty. 5 Things I Wish I Knew About Sex At 30
4. You Learn To Value Your Time More. At 26 I didn't care about staying out til 2 am and waking up with a hangover and nursing it for the next 24 hours. Now? I can't be bothered. I wouldn't want to give up a full day to couch lounging. I have errands to do, exercise to do, stuff to do. I no longer hang with friends who are emotionally draining and toxic. I've pared down my inner circle to close friends who know me and don't bullshit me and waste my time.
5. People Expect You To Look Great at 30. When You Look Great at 40, You Exceed Expectations. This one is self-explanatory. Anybody can look hot at 25. But at 40? Not as easy.
Discussion
ALL people NEED to feel good about themselves regardless of ANY age!! Many individuals 40 and over are happy, healthy, and are still capable of sex 3 times in a night. This is a great article. Everyone should be grateful for all good qualities they have. Poor qualities can be improved, always improve, always grow, always learn, and if you can, always love.
Though I work with so many women over 40 who, instead of feeling MORE themselves, and more COMFORTABLE with themselves, have been increasingly feeling needy, desperate and hopeless around relationships and marriage -- I've also seen these same women change their lives DRAMATICALLY so much more quickly than younger women, once they have some guidance and Tools. We are actually more willing to try something new and give up what's old and doesn't work. We're more willing to throw over the Nasty Voices in our heads and get our OWN view of ourselves. We're more willing, and often EXCITED to enter a new chapter of our lives that's about our own happiness. Thanks for this post (I love everything you post on this site...) Rori
"11. We're Sexier Because We Own It. F*ck that Twilight guy and Chuck Bass. We have Bart Bass, Roger Sterling & Don Draper. Thirty year olds in suits? Cute. Forty year olds in suits? Elegant and powerful."
Great piece. I wish I knew more people like you. I highlighted that last one, though, because I just don't see that attitude much. Most of the 40-year-old women I know seem to really enjoy talking about, looking at, and flirting with guys little more than half their age.
Sheesh, I wish my wife thought I was "elegant."
I always liked older, more secure and mature people. Now that I am one, a woman in her 40s and married, I still like the older more mature, but now they are my age. That is an adjustment I'm working on. WEIRD! We have more fun and know how to enjoy a sober moment! Loved the article!
One comment though, notice how many that were so popular andbeautiful in their teens, 20s and 30s are now either still stuck in the land of what was or are very very old? LOL I'm too damn young to be that damn old! Come ask me when I'm 70!
Just My 2cnts
One Hot 40 something to another,
LyndaW
WHILE MOST OF WHAT IS SAID HERE WOULD APPLY TO ME BUT THAT'S KIND OF GIRL I WAS DATING. IT HAS BEEN MY OBSERVATION THAT MOST WOMEN TURN BACK INTO THE TYPE OF GIRL THEY WERE AND KINDA LOSE THE PROGRESS THEY MADE. IF THEY WERE THE GIRLS THAT HAD TO HAVE A DATE,BOY, SIGNIFICANT OTHER, THEY GENERAL PANIC BACK TO THAT. BUT IF THEY WERE THE ONES WHO RATHER BE ALONE THAN WITH SOMEONE THAT TREATS THEM LIKE CRAP THEY STAY LIKE THAT.
