"I would really like to invite you up but...
... I get really, really, really, really attached to someone after we sleep together. Really attached."
... I am at present an impenetrable fortress of Spanx."
... I'm not ready to tell you about my herpes status."
... I'm not ready to be disappointed by what appears to be your smaller than average member."
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Have you been in this situation before? You're not a prude, but sometimes there are any number of reasons why you're not willing or able to go for the deed on a particular night. And maybe it's a good thing. Does Casual Sex Screw Up Emotional Intimacy?
Why? Because let's face it: waiting to have sex—regardless of religious concerns or affectations of "being hard to get" or whatever reason you have—puts you in control of the situation and heightens both the desire and anticipation of the inevitable. What's more, it also gives you the opportunity to get to know him better. Always a good thing, right?
An article from AskMen.com seems to think the sweet spot is sometime after the third date but before month three:
There's a good chance that this kind of gal has a great sex drive. And it's great that she took the time to get to know you, and let you get to know her—outside the bedroom."
Here are a few lines that you might want to try out if the opportunity arises:
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Things you should probably not say:
- My vagina dentata has been acting up lately. It's quite hungry. Love and (Safe) Sex: How Do You Have The STD Talk?
- You really think the date went that well?
- I'm pretty tired, I guess I could just lie there and try not to fall asleep, I guess, if that's what you'd like.
- Good luck getting through my extra-strength support panty hose.
- Um, I'm not ready to be disappointed... yet.
Things you could say: