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Poll: Do You Love Your Baby-Daddy More Than Your Baby?

Do you love (or expect to love) your partner more than your child/ren?

Nancy Reagan infamously declared that she loved Ronald more than Ron Jr. and their other children. What do you say, sacrilege or understandable? Do you love (or expect to love) your partner more than your child/ren? Why I Love My Kid More Than My Husband

Yes
19% (69 votes)
No
57% (201 votes)
About the same.
24% (84 votes)
Total votes: 354
75% Can RelateCan you relate?

Discussion

patswife Married Truly, Madly, Deeply, Passionately
Can't Relate - Posted September 16, 2009

First of all, I think the terms, Baby Daddy and Baby Mama are so DISRESPECTFUL. If you are going to have a child with someone, give them the proper respect as your co-parent. That person is your CHILDS MOTHER/FATHER. You degrade yourself, your partner, and your child when you refer to that person, the person who helped to create your beloved CHILDREN in the first place, in such a derogatory manner. As for the question itself. Are you serious? You have different kinds of love in your life. The love of your Spouse/Partner cannot compare to the love of your Children, just as neither of those loves can compare to that you would show your own parents. You don't love your spouse more than you love your child, you love them both (I would hope!) just in very different ways. But for the record, a spouse or lover can come and go, but until the day your children bury you, you will ALWAYS be a parent.

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nubiancoco Single
Can Relate - Posted September 7, 2009

IF THIS QUESTION IS REFERRING TO MY EX HUSBAND OR MY CHILD. MY CHILD WINS HANDS DOWN. I LOVE MY CHILD MORE.

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julietdwamena Single I have never dated
Can Relate - Posted August 26, 2009

I do not think choosing between your partner and child is appropriate. Babies our made out of love from couples,so babies are there to consolidate the love you feel for each other.Both deserve equal amount of love and attention.

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Bsg67 Married
Posted August 26, 2009

I find this a stupid and unhealthy question to ask. The love we have for our children is, in essence, different of the one we have for our partners, they don't compare qualitatively; they involve different sets of emotions and practical realities.

Score: 1
Lyz Married Community Manager
Posted August 26, 2009

And yet many women feel that if push came to shove it would be their children over their husband.

Score: 0
BookMama Married Happily Married
Posted September 7, 2009

They are such different kinds of love. As parents, both of us would save our children first from a burning building. If we were the one in the burning building, we would want the kids to be saved first.

At the same time, my husband is the one I turn to for companionship. He is the one who will listen if I have a bad day or invite me out for lunch if he knows I'm feeling blue. I am the one who listens to the stories about crazy people at work.

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Airen Married polyamorous, committed, intimate, free
Can Relate - Posted August 25, 2009

My kids are a reflection of the deep abiding love I have for their fathers. They are my love made manifest, though I would never want to choose child over father! Still my kids will someday make it out on their own and build lives for themselves where their father's lives are built around being with me. So while I'll be a mother forever I've been a lover, wife and friend longer. It's so great love doesn't have a limit and isn't scarce cause It would be awful having to choose to not love someone because you already love someone else...there'd be no multiple kid homes!

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