5. Is this a relationship or a prison sentence? We expect parolees to give an account of where they've been almost all the time, and who they've been with. Parole officers check to see if the parolees actually report to work. A relationship is supposed to have more trust than that. If a man feels that he's not being trusted, and he hasn't done anything deserving of the interrogation process (a la Law And Order), then don't expect to have him around too much longer. This would apply primarily to someone who has a lot of insecurities. 16 Reasons To Date A Convict
6. Independence is great—to a point. Call it ego, male insecurity, whatever you like. There's no getting around the fact that we need to feel that we're in this for more than just sex (yeah, I know...sounds weird coming from a guy). If you keep telling a man (and showing him, too) that you can do everything on your own, then what do you need him for? As shallow as it may sound, we do have to have our ego fed just a bit (maybe some guys more than others, but I think you get the idea).
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7. Being too dependent is not a good thing, either. I know it sounds like we can't make up our minds between numbers 6 and 7, but there is a balance. It's like we want a grown woman who can handle her business, but still let us know that there's a place in her life for us that only we can fill. You're not a child, and we don't expect to treat you like one, or take care of you like one. If you come to a guy for every single thing, and can't seem to make up your mind or make decisions...well, one day he make make up his mind and not come back. What If You DO Need A Man?
8. Don't you ever have anything nice to say? Yeah, we mess up from time to time (and it may seem that those times run pretty close together). But what about some props? Can't your man do anything right? I'm not talking about being patronizing, or treating him like a first grader keeping his colors inside the lines ("Way to go, Ronnie!"). Nobody can stand always being criticized. Psychologists call it "positive reinforcement." Men call it "giving us a break."
9. There's no future in the past. We've all made mistakes. The thing is to learn from them, not live in them. if your man made a mistake, and you've agreed to forgive him for it, then do that. Don't bring it up and keep beating him over the head with it. If you keep bringing up the past, then be prepared to talk about your man in the past tense, as in "ex."
10. Maybe his friends won't be your friends, but don't dog them out, either. He knew them before he knew you. He knows how they are. If one (or more) of his friends are players, he knows this already. You don't have to remind him of that. if you keep making negative comments about them, what you're really doing is showing an insecurity. and, in a more subtle way, expresiing a lack of trust. If he's with you, and everything is going right, then don't let whatever actions that his friends take influence the relationship. Poll: Do You Love Your Boyfriend But Hate His Friends?
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Of course, this isn't a complete list. This is just a conversation starter. Any other thoughts, or something more to add?