How Often Should I See My New Man?
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Ordinarily, I think establishing rules in the beginning of a relationship is not wise, but gauging the amount of time a man makes for you at the start can indicate how far the relationship will go in the future. If he's just not making the time, why go further? He's revealing his interest level right there, and wheedling more time with him will be like pulling teeth.
That said, establishing from the beginning that you have your own life, interests, friends will help set some easy boundaries and pave the way for a healthier relationship, I think. From there, if you feel the need to set some rules or guidelines, then that's your prerogative.
For me, I dont think a time should be scheduled for two new lover, neither is there any rules that states...my new man should not be seen often. as far as two are in love, they can see as often as they feel, and dat will create more intimacy between them. I see my new man often, we create time for each other, chat anytime we feel like, call as much as possible in a day, and everything has been so smooth that we miss moment without each other...
In as much as there is no deceit between the two seeing often cannot reduce the love they have for each other, it will rather increase it
these "rules" are foolish and childish!! talk about games!!! how about we let the desire to see each other depict how often that happens, rather than whether you saw him sunday, then tuesday, then maybe saturday....!!
these parameters really make it hard for people to just enjoy themselves and follow their guts... making it wrong to see someone when you want is just plain silly. not that this has a direct correlation on divorce rates, but man oh man.... no wonder people are so stressed out! they don't know what the rules are, when they're breaking them, when they should call, write, email, facebook, IM, text, you name it.
How about we just do what feels good and right and let it all work itself out!!?!?!?
I think if people are asking for the rules then its not that foolish. Some people want guidelines and best practices, other people want to go with their gut. But I do think, its important to think before you act too rashly especially in the beginning of a relationship. You can come off as a crazy person, pretty quickly.
I agree with lovely... who makes up these rules?? I started dating a 'new' guy almost a month ago and we are really diggin' each other. I say 'new' because we graduated from high school together many years ago :) and then re-connected on a social networking site. We are very good together - emotionally, intellectually, and physically - it all clicks. We see each other 4-5 times a week... I think we both know when there is the need to do our own thing and we respect that... then when we are together.... wow.....
I have to say this. I feel that by saying a guy will become "disinterested"if he sees his woman "too much" is a punch to a guy's self image. There are more men that are wanting to be by their lady's side each day,but you are making men believe that they have to follow some standard...Where do you get this standard from? How can I help institute a change it in my male friends?
Could you explain this to me please?
