The Force? What is this Star Wars?
Listen guys, we've poked fun at our own gender for inhaling tomes like He's Just Not That Into You but this garbage is just insane. Sure we've heard Nice Guys Finish Last and we've all fallen victim to a jerk or three, but women (healthy women) love nice guys. A guy who pulls out the chair, tells us we're beautiful and calls when he says he will is really all we want. Spoiler!
And as far as erasing this "Inner Wuss," while a man's brain may operate like an ineractive card game or fantasy football match-up, ladies don't like being treated like strategic war moves. "Wow she looks nice" shouldn't morph into physical aloofness and an air of indifference because you think (in your misguided mind) that the ends will justify the cruel means.
Oh, and if we call you "mean" that normally means you've hurt our feelings. And do you really want to be the one to resuscitate your girlfriend's sagging self-esteem because you thought a courtship of no compliments was the way to go?
We'd take a guess that all of you self-proclaimed "Nice Guys" are having a tough time in the female department for other reasons. Perhaps you lack pizzaz, charisma, sexiness, humor, your own style, premature ejaculation, etc. Or perhaps (you should probably sit down for this one) you haven't met the right girl yet.
Sometimes it really is that simple.