That cult of orgasm has a very perverse effect on people who have difficulties reaching one: being obsessed to reach climax when you’re having sex is actually the best way to prevent it from happening.
So here’s my advice: forget orgasm, just enjoy the time you’re having. Free your mind in the first place, and then you will allow your body to release.
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