How To Orgasm From Giving A Blow Job
Blow jobs can be better for both of you with these sexpert tips.
Susan Crain Bakos is a research sexologist, sex journalist and author. Here, she tells us how to have an orgasm while giving a guy oral sex—a tip from her book "The New Tantra."
If you're in a relationship, you probably have quid pro quo sex: You arouse him with some oral sex, he returns so you can orgasm, you shift to intercourse for his peak and finish with The Cuddle for your benefit.
Give your sex life a jolt with fellatio that will rock both of your worlds (really!). It's time modern women got down on our knees for something other than a yoga class—to really worship his penis. 10 Oral Sex Tips From A Man
Worthy of Worship
Open veneration of the penis was practiced throughout history—right up to the point where it was repressed in Christianity. We in the West erect more subtle monuments to the male organ, like the Washington Monument, but we all see the message: male power.
How do you practice phallus worship? Make love to his penis. Not him, his penis. Every man secretly wants to experience a woman in thrall to the power of his sexual organ.
Venerate Your Man
In that moment, he becomes his penis, because your passion is pure—not dependent on his money or status or good looks. (Sometimes it's the best part of him, isn't it? I've had more than one intense personal relationship where I loved the penis—but the man, not so much. I call it being dick-matized.)
But trust me: Make love to his penis alone and the man, its life support system, will love you for that.
Really, there is no better way of reducing the stress and tension of daily life than taking a penis into your mouth and sucking. It's the big girl's pacifier.
Perfect BJ Prep
First: Get down on your knees, grasp that big boy and look at it.
Have you ever really done that? A penis is a beautiful thing. Each one is a different work of art.
Second: Pay close attention to how the penis responds as you lick and suck and stroke.
The obvious mouth moves—sucking the head, swirling your tongue around the corona, strumming the frenulum—always work. But that penis has its special little places. Find them. One of my all-time favorite organs had this spot on the underside of the shaft, about a third of the way down. I could make it come by sucking there.
If you need some inspiration, check out my technique, The Basic Black Dress of Blow Jobs.
How to Get Yours While You're Down There
I call this the Wild Card Chakra Trick. Chakra number five, located at the throat, is said to be the chakra of creative expression.
Some women can reach orgasm while performing fellatio because there really is a physiological connection between the throat and the vagina. If you are one of those women, this is your extra-sexual-energy zone. You feel the direct connection between mouth/throat and genitals.
There is a quick way to find out if you have the potential to come while giving a blowjob. Suck the head of his penis and pay attention to how your throat is responding. If it seems to quiver or vibrate faintly in time with your sucking, you can do this.
Discussion
Ha young silly girls!
aint nothing better than sucking it! worship it? I dunno about all that, call it what you will. but when you really get into it, and knowing that he is really into it, will actually make you hotter than anything! and about the throat thing, well Im no DR but there is thing that once I am sooo hot and into his c**k being in my mouth, and the deeper I suck it down my throat, there is something that happens.. not a 'throat orgasm' but the tie between the penis being deep in your throat, and the hotness of it getting ready to explode will actually make you orgasm.
Well, I guess I'm not going to get an answer to this question. I keep coming back to it, though. To me it seems so odd that someone would say there's nothing better than performing oral sex on someone else. Not that it isn't nice or even exciting to please others, but I'm afraid I'm a little more selfish than that.
The bottom line is, getting boinked is so amazing, could a woman really think fellatio is even in the same universe of pleasure? I can't imagine it beginning to compare.
From a guy's point of view, the best blow job I ever had, with my then wife, happened after she learned to "love the c**k" and after about 4 or 5 months into our relationship before marriage, to "love your c**k - but not you - yet".
She owned me with those words, alone. Everytime I got that certain look or wink or smile, I knew what was about to happen - and I'm telling you she just owned me. I would drop everything for that kind of physical attention once or twice a week, if for no other reasons, than to relieve tension or for her to coax me into paying attention to her love making. She could get my attention, all right. She could make me completely relax and let her talent take over.
That evolved into her coming at will - sometimes she didn't - she just wanted to get my d**k off because she knew I was horny. You know - 5 or 6 minutes, wipe your mouth, be done with it and go do something else, maybe ride a bike or take a walk. Interesting, we always seemed to have regular sex or more mutual oral sex, later that same day or the next, because we both wanted the whole enchilada for each other - not just "mouth sex for one".
In fact she learned so much about control that after about 3-minutes she could have me fully hard and flexing, whether driving in a car, or in the hot tub, or while watching TV. After that, if she wanted to come too, she'd close her eyes and let her imagination and fingers go to work. She could time her orgasm to mine, after she learned more about my body amd hers.
She explained she learned "love the c**k" with her last lover. And that she would have "both a clitoral orgasm and a vaginal orgasm when she wanted to." The second time she and I came together like that, she had me deep in her mouth, bouncing up and down on my d**k with her lips and tongue. That became sort of her "dance" with herself, and less about me, no control and no conquest - just raw sex.
When she came she ususally had one hand massaging her breast , legs and and rear end., with the other hand fingers or a vibator in her own crotch. The foreplay was her art form, and she loved to suck while coming really hard. Saying that the tendency, as she approached her own orgasm, while mouthing and jacking my c**k, the natural tendency was to open her mouth when her orgasmi started - not bite down, and that was how she began to enjoy making my c**k shoot in her mouth at the same time. (Her words, not mine! - from our for what it's worth department)
Hmmm, sounds like a lot of work and too much thinking. But I suppose if I was bored and interested in trying something different this might come up, but I'm happy with the way I do things already. Sometimes, it's better to focus your attention solely on the other person without being so concerned that you are "getting off" every time he does. I mean, if he's giving me oral, I'd prefer that he keep his mind where his mouth is and not so much on himself.
You could also use a vibrator while giving the blowjob. Although I would be concerned about reflexive biting.
Shouldn't it be enough that you want to give your partner pleasure? This just feels like one more burden to me - make yourself come from something that doesn't stimulate any of your pleasure spots. Set an impossible goal and get frustrated that you can't have "throat orgasms."
And no, I am not going to actually worship a penis, thank you very much. Nor do I expect to be worshiped myself. Normal enjoyment and appreciation is fine - actually wonderful.
