For those 34 percent of women who prefer Thinking, logic, and preference, they must contend with being called a witch, or worse. And for those 34 percent of men who fall into the Feeling preference, they must contend with being called effeminate. But just because a woman brings an objective point of view or a man brings a subjective point of view doesn't mean it's of less value. It's important that we recognize and honor the need for both in a relationship. 5 Things You Don't Need To Have In Common
Once we do recognize the need for both views, life becomes far more pleasant. Like when Dave made his knuckleheaded comment about Mary’s shoes—instead of seething on the inside and holding it against him for days, or even weeks, she simply asked him, "Are you having a "T" moment?" Are you being objective and logical at a time when I need your support regardless of your objectivity?
Mary didn't have to get upset. She had a language to call Dave out on his assumptions. Dave realized now was a time to make a decision based on how Mary would feel, not what he thought. "I'm sorry," he said. "You look wonderful." Crisis averted. For now, anyway.
Written by Silas Barnes for Divine Caroline.
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