Exiting a One Night Stand

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Bidding Them Adieu

When you do leave their place or they are high-tailing it out of yours, there is no obligation to exchange numbers or agree to meeting again. Tiger says that the most graceful way to exit is with a heartfelt thank you and no empty promises. "Don't say you're going to call if you're not going to call. That doesn't mean you should say, 'have a good life.' Just a 'that was a great night, take care,' and you're off," she says.

Playing it Cool

On the same tack, if you know that you will only be bumping uglies with this person once, you need to be honest from the start. This doesn't mean that you need to spell out the exact terms of engagement but it's important not to create the impression that by sleeping with you, there is the potential of a relationship after doing the deed.

Tiger says that laying it on the line beforehand would be a huge buzz kill, but you shouldn't misrepresent yourself by talking about a future with this person if you have no intention of seeing them again.

Having sex with someone isn't a binding contract to do anything else with them or be their friend, but you should try to be gentle with people's feelings. This means no lying about why it was a one-night deal or offering reasons why they were a crap lay.
 
Tiger says that it's important to be nice. "I really do think that honesty is the best policy. Would you want to be lied to? That old dictum 'treat others as you'd have them treat you' holds true for dating and sex etiquette, too. Again, that doesn't give you license to be mean. If the honest truth is that you woke up this morning and realized last night's Brad Pitt is this morning's Seth Rogan, keep it to yourself," she says.
 
Being nice, clear in your intentions, and not promising to meet up again should help you avoid any sticky situations should you run into your cast-off paramour in the street or when you are out with someone else.
 
If the one-night stand was awful or ended badly, it can be tempting to pretend that it didn't happen, but you need to be grown-up about it. "It's weird not to acknowledge someone with whom you've swapped spit," says Tiger. "Obviously it can be a little awkward, and even a nod and a hello are fine, but do not
ignore the other person." Continue reading on SingleEdition.com

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