"Honey, Your Husband Is A Jerk"

By momlogic. Posted on Jul 27th 2009.

They argue in public. He calls her names. What does my friend see in her husband?

My suggestion for handling this is to ask your friend to go the ladies room with you. Inside the safety of the ladies room express your concern for your friend and ask her if she needs anything from you. Be careful not to judge her or her husband. Simply tell her what you are observing and express your desire to be of help. It is possible that she will dismiss her husband's comments as meaningless. She may be doing this to not make the matter worse. If she says that, take her at her word, tell her that if she ever needs you to let you know and then return to the table. In your own mind plan to call her tomorrow to double-check at that time encourage her to get psychological counseling to deal with this "mental abuse."

If she expresses fear, ask her how serious a threat her husband is. If she is safe to go home with him, let her know you have the intention to meet with her at another time to support her in her efforts to get the right help. If she tells you that she is afraid to go home, find out if there is somewhere else she can go and help her get there. Read: The #1 Reason Guys Beat Up Their Girlfriends