The Truth About Sexless Marriage

"If a couple is OK with their pattern, whether it's infrequent or not at all there isn't a problem," says Steinhart. "Some would say, 'If it ain't broke, don't fix it.'" That's why it's important to keep an open dialogue with your spouse, to continue to connect on other levels and to make sure both of you are truly content with the status of the relationship. Steinhart adds, "It's not a lack of sex that's the issue, it's a discordant level of desire."

Sadly, Jennifer never really got to the bottom of why her ex stopped wanting to have sex with her. "As for theories, I came up with a slew of possible reasons, that he's stressed, he's busy, he's tired, he's sick, he takes me for granted, he's gay," she says.

For Jennifer, it was the lack of sex that first made her unhappy with her marriage. "The sex issues awakened me to my unhappiness," says Jennifer. "I was trying to stick it out despite the lack of sex, but there were too many other factors that disappointed me about him. I don't think it's possible for a sexless marriage to have no other problems." Apparently her husband felt similarly, as they mutually agreed to divorce.