What Does The "Marrying Type" Look For?
Marriage and how to keep him interested.
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I'm not a very mysterious person and I'm not convinced that's what men are looking for. I think the truth is that different guys are looking for different things. Some guys are going to want someone quiet, some will want someone who's the life of the party. Some guys are looking for an independent partner and some want closeness and intimacy. Some guys will want more traditional values, some will want a polyamorous woman who is wiling to try anything once.
It's a cliche, but I think the answer is to figure out what kind of person you want to be and then look for a guy who likes you as you are.
I love the comment (of course I'm of the same mind, so.....)
I always feel a little dubious about women that say they want a man who is mysterious. Reason being is a good buddy from college was often described as mysterious by the ladies around campus, and it got him a fair bit of action. But what they mistook for "mysterious" was simply him being an extremely quiet guy with not a whole lot going on. Sure, he was intelligent and good looking, and actually has a sharp wit, but beyond that there wasn't much too him besides an array of sneakers that would have made Imelda jealous, more action figures and models from anime and cartoons than you could shake a stick at, a love of acting so long as it is only in the college's community theater program, and a couple turn tables along with hundreds of records.
Sure, may not sound so bad in college, but he is about a good 7 years older than me and this is still his life.
Of course, I'm sure not all guys are "mysterious" like this.
For me, I like a woman that has a little hell raiser in her. Keeps life very interesting. Maybe not peaceful all the time, but definitely not boring!
