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I Visited An S&M Club

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Visiting a BDSM dungeon makes the writer examine her privacy boundaries.

I admit that it is initially confounding to see how shackles and spiked collars translate into reciprocal romance. But, let's be honest: Sexual intercourse for a lot of people consists of the woman staring stoically at the ceiling and a man who falls asleep before her final curtain call. He shoots… he snores! It's pretty hard to justify moral outrage if that's your definition of mutual respect and pleasure.

Am I interested in a return visit to the dungeon? No. My pain threshold is too low and my privacy needs are too high.

Do I intend to change my closing salutation to "Spanks a lot, Athena?" Only with very good friends. But I have learned one essential lesson: I should spend less time fine-tuning my fortress and more time adjusting my attitude. Read: Can A Feminist Like Spanking?