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Comment of the Day 07/08


Sometimes being a little full of yourself isn't such a bad thing. In fact, as Peenu so confidently writes, its the only way we can get back on our feet again.

I don't know.... This is my conundrum. I think I rock. I think I am awesome. Hell, my cat worships me!! But I did grow up in a very negative family. Negative reinforcement from my mother on not being pretty enough, smart enough, skinny enough... blah, blah, blah. Sometimes, those thoughts creep back into my head. Though I know that they are no longer "true" statements, there will always be a part of me that will feel completely inadequate. But I think that they pop up at different times, depending on the scenario.

Say, for instance, if I have just been shot down for a date, I feel all those statements circle around my head. But then I realize too, it's not me, I rock! He MUST have a problem! LOL I know, sounds a little self-centered, but I figure out of all the years I was beat down and stepped on by my mother of all people, I deserve to talk myself up. And there are a lot of people who completely agree with me, so it's all good, right? ;o)

We're with you, lady. Talk yourself up. We agree with you:)


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