Love Ruined My Porn Habit: A Woman's Story

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A porn-loving woman finds that, after falling in love, her libido just isn't that into porn.

Well, despite all these barriers, it still seems like there's hope for my furtive little habit. Over time, I've noticed my interest in porn beginning to return. And from what the experts have told me, this is what we'd expect. As Dr. Fisher says, love has three stages, and it's in the first one (the "attachment" phase) when we experience most of the intense hormones and chemistry. Read: The Chemistry of Love

All of those biological protections that keep our eyes from wandering eventually lessen and lose their grip—that's when we're supposed to start trusting our partners on a more rational level. I'd like that to be the case—and I'd like him to earn it—but just in case, I don't mind browsing now and then for a little backup. 

We hear about relationships torn apart by internet porn addiction, but where are the support groups for smut-loving women like me, who suddenly and inexplicably get turned off by porn when they fall in love?  Before I met my boyfriend, I was visiting youporn.com about a half an hour a day, hunting through dozens of clips to find the one most perfectly calibrated to turn me on. 

After I met my boyfriend, my visits to the site dropped off in equal proportion to how much I was getting off with a flesh-and-blood human being.

But my loss of appetite for porn can't simply be chocked up to how great it is to have the real thing: There were days when, beau away, I'd recall the quick jolt of satisfaction that used to await me online. I would go to my computer and put my hand down my pants—only to find that porn, gasp, suddenly did nothing for me. Read: Self Pleasure For Beginners

Even clips that had the golden ratio suddenly looked contrived, grotesque—like apes humping in a zoo. It made no sense.

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