Rebound Relationships: A Man's Approach

By Fox News iMag. Posted on Jul 7th 2009.

Go inside the boys' club: read advice written for guys and learn how men approach rebound dating.

This is a good way to "diversify your portfolio" (for you finance guys), keep things light with everyone (for you cold feet guys), and not set yourself up for serial monogamy (for you OCD guys).Read: Summer Fling Checklist

4. Be realistic. Rebounds generally stem from an emotion that isn't the foundation or impetus for a healthy relationship. They are a form of escapism or anesthesia from whatever your past relationship left behind. Sometimes they serve as a validating, self-esteem building reminder that someone out there doesn't seem to think you are as bad as your ex makes you out to be (The "Stuart Smalley"). Sometimes they are weapons designed to exact spite and alleviate anger over feeling wronged by your ex (The "Eat Your Heart Out"). And other times they are simply blissful indications of a new chapter in your life (The "2nd Coming"). Notice though, that regardless of the reasoning, in all three instances the rebound is about you, and no healthy relationship is about just one person.

So before you begin to think there's a real future with RG, ask yourself how much of that feeling is completely disassociated from your past relationship. In the early going, the honest answer to that question is usually "not much", but with time, you will filter your options, and perhaps even find happiness again ... in a rebound girl.Read: 10 Basic Rules For A New Relationship

Written by Oliver "Ali" Nejad for FNC iMag.