Mark Sanford: Mistress Is My "Soul Mate"
The governor says his mistress is his soul mate, but he'll fall in love with his wife again.
It's been a rough week or so for South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford. Not only has his affair with Argentina native Maria Belen Shapur come out, but since this revelation, many of the state's lawmakers are calling on Sanford to step down. And while the governor insists that he is ready to "fall back in love" with his wife, Jenny, he has also sought to take control of the situation. And by control, we mean blow up any credibility he had left.
In an inteview with the Associated Press, Sanford said he's had flirtations with other women, but he "didn't cross the sex line." He called Belen Shapur, whom he met in 2001, his "soul mate," but said he was committed to his wife. In hopes of working things out with her, the governor had a farewell meeting with Belen Shapur in New York that had been approved by both Jenny and Sanford's spirital advisor. What We Learn From Gov. Sanford's Love E-mails
Sanford told the AP:
I don't want to blow up future earning power, I don't want to blow up the kids' lives. I don't want to blow up 20 years that we've invested. But if I'm completely honest, there are still feelings in the way. If we keep pushing it this way, we get those to die off, but they're still there and they're still real.
Sanford also told the news organization, "I will be able to die knowing that I had met my soul mate," in reference to Belen Shapur.
Calls for his resignation are growing louder and some are even questioning the governor's mental state after the latest confessions. We're thinking similar thoughts. Mainly, "Who announces their soul mate lives in Argentina, while trying to make it work with their wife in South Carolina?"
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Controversial comments from an infidelity expert on selected points from Jenny Sanford’s interview with Vogue magazine. http://bit.ly/zjprz
Why Jenny’s curiosity about her husband’s mistress is normal, her amazing insight into the dynamics of her husbands affair, a husband’s susceptibility to extramarital affairs, emotional infidelity and how it begins, should a wife seek revenge, how far should a wife go to reconcile with a cheating husband, and more. http://bit.ly/zjprz
There’s a reason Sanford keeps babbling on about his mistress being his soul mate, and trying to fall in love with is wife again. http://bit.ly/HgSbU His advisors were remiss in not telling him about the withdrawal symptoms and strong emotions he would experience after ending his affair.
Sanford thinks the feelings he is experiencing towards his mistress right now are unique – because he was not warned beforehand what to expect. These are normal emotions for a person who trying to end a extramarital affair in which there are strong emotional bonds in addition to a sexual bond. More observations on the Sanford affair from an infidelity expert’s point of view at http://infidelitynewsandviews.blogspot.com/
There are some valuable lessons we can learn about infidelity from the Sanford affair, including
-- How an inappropriate friendship with someone of the opposite sex can undermine a marriage if it turns into an emotional affair. http://bit.ly/RhumY
-- The pitfalls a cheating husband can expect when trying to terminate an extramarital affair based on strong emotional and sexual bonds and what he should and should not do to cope. http://bit.ly/HgSbU
-- The steps a betrayed wife should take if she wants to save her marriage, without losing her self-respect http://bit.ly/giv70
More observations on the Sanford affair from an infidelity expert’s point of view at http://infidelitynewsandviews.blogspot.com/
Sanford is completely blind to his situation. This is because he is SELFISH, SELF-ABSORBED, ARROGANT, IMMATURE and smarmy, too. He is ripping his family to shreds while spilling his guts about his schoolboy crush on an Argentine skank. News flash, Governor: It's NOT ALL ABOUT YOU. You have a WIFE who supported your ambitions for over two decades and gave you four lovely SONS. How do you think they feel when you whine about hoping to "fall in love again" with your wife/ their mom (again, it's "all about you") AND you send emails to the mistress rhapsodizing about how you want to help HER son in his chosen career? MAN UP, YOU IDIOT. You made a commitment to YOUR family. Love is not just a feeling. Of course, if I were your wife or child, at this point I would be so throughly disgusted with you, you might never win me back. But you are a total amoral moron if you don't grovel, beg their forgiveness, shut your public mouth and act like a MAN. News flash #2, Governor: Despite your tears and flowery words, there is nothing romantic about your story. You are not a tragic hero, not a star-crossed lover, and not Romeo--You are a goat following a bunch of pheromones. Get over yourself. You cannot hope to build a life on the wreckage of your family.
He has already left his wife and she needs to accept she'll never have him where they were before. Its obvious he is really in love with the mistress and wants out of politics and the marriage, he just happens to be a high profiled politician. If i could speak from a male point of view i can clearly say he jacked up by saying the mistress was his soul mate and he's trying to fall back in love with his wife. But since he is tring to be honest he needs to pay back the tax payers for money he abused while foolishly in love. in hindsight he made a great many poor judgement calls but how many of us would do it all over again if we found our soul mate in the trials in error? His wife might be pissed off but the mistress is glowing after his announcement and she is his soul mate. He needs to be fired for the circus he caused and the shame he continues to wreak his wife with. I feel sorry for the Mrs. because its obvious she had stock in him and was living her dreams thru him and now after she made him what he is, she gets no credit. so her ability to adapt and adjust to the revelation has to be quick, done in a hurry. let him go in peace now that the truth has set him free...
