3) Don't Force Your Wardrobe. No matter what your shape, don't be afraid to bare a little, advises Gottlieb. This is not about spending money on trying to look hot. It's about letting your clothes be an expression of who you are. Accentuate your positives. Go for bold colors or sleek darks, whichever you like. Pay attention to the clothes you choose to wear every day. Go for patterns that make you happy. Accessorize. Choose what's comfortable and flirty and reflects your personal style. Only you can pull off your style with such ease. Own it. Be confident in it. And when someone compliments you on how amazing you look, don't shrug it off. Look your admirer right in the eye and, with a warm grin, Usher forth a genuine, appreciative thank you. Relish the rewards. You earned them. These are your clothes, this is your vibe—and it is pitch-perfect sexy.
"Over drinks at a bar my date revealed many interesting details about himself. He used to live on 'the streets.' He claimed to have 'beat Spina Bifida.' He had had a fiancé in Japan who was open to him dating women while he was in the States. After all those amazing revelations I let him know our relationship would not be romantic. As we walked out of the bar he appeared to be suffering from some sort of stomach cramp. He told me he suffered from severe IBS and desperately needed a private bathroom. I have family members who suffer from Crohn's disease so I felt very sympathetic to his situation. I offered to let him use the bathroom in my apartment. After he had finished using the bathroom, he says, 'I know you said we could just be friends and that's fine. But, I was wondering if I could just watch you pee before I leave. I only want to watch.' P.S. — I did not let him watch me pee." -Miranda, 33