5 Things I Hate About My Marriage
Loving your husband does not mean that living with him is always easy.
Yes, I love my husband and family and wouldn't change a thing about our family unit. Now that I have made that obligatory statement, let me get to my point. There are certain issues that I have with the institution of marriage, which offers both wonderful benefits and incredible challenges, often in the same day. Here are the five things I hate about marriage.
1) Bathroom sharing. Frankly, there is no man on the planet with whom I would willingly share a bathroom (except perhaps an out-of-the-closet gay male with pathological OCD). In my experience, men have horrible toilet aim, hog up my precious counter space, are oblivious when toilet paper rolls run out, soil all bath towels and don't think to replace them, and steal my nail clippers no matter how well they are hidden. Sharing a Bathroom? Cohabitation Tips
2) Bed sharing. The bed can be used in many fun and exciting ways in marriage, but when it comes to sleep, I much prefer to fly solo. I am a very light sleeper, and once I am awakened, it is nearly impossible for me to get back down. Between my covers being inadvertently ripped off and scratchy toenails accidently brushing against me, a good night's sleep is often impossible for me to obtain. A few nights a week I find myself wide awake at 3 am with nothing to do but listen to the sound of my husband breathing—the most irritating noise imaginable during an insomniac episode. Beautiful Master Bedroom Designs
3) Nonstop compromise. Because I am a woman, I really think I should get my way all the time. I want Thai food for dinner, then I want to take a relaxing bubble bath, after which I want to watch the Real Housewives reunion. You want sushi, sex, and UFC. Who wins? If I get my way, you mope. If you get your way, I'm pissed. If we meet in the middle, neither of us are happy. Suggestions, anyone?
4) Civility during PMS. I am a big proponent of the Red Tent theory. I really believe that from the time when PMS strikes to the time when I am done bleeding, I should only be in the presence of women who are in the same boat hormonally. Attempting to have any civil communication with a member of the male species is nearly impossible. Men are such easy targets for all of our premenstrual irritation. And let's be honest, a man really doesn't stand a chance when pitted against a woman with PMS. The most humane option is complete separation during this time. OK...we can meet up for sex, shopping, and salty food, but that is it!
Discussion
Seriously? Woman, you are CRAZY! How about you become slightly more accountable in your life and relationship? You can't blame others for your personality flaws, of which I see several. The only reason I read this article was because another blog was ripping it apart for the ridiculous things you complain about. If you can't adapt to being married and be happy, for the love of sanity, get divorced. I recommend you get cats. They'll ignore you just enough to make you feel validated. Or, for the rest of us, if you are this miserable, just kill yourself. Then we don't have to listen to this inane babble on the Internet.
who ever that was talking ignorant about your acting like a princess is blinded,because they have probably never been in a seriouse relationship or marriage!im a women thats been in a relationship twice, once married for ten yrs.and now in a 4 yr.old realationship .but all thoughs things that annoy you bother every women.but as long as you can get bye and know you have true love,lets just say its worth it!!just nerve recking at times!
I don't feel there was anything selfish about what you just said. You were fed up with these issues and decided to rant about it. Big whoop! We all go through these things it doesn't mean we love our men or families any less. Sometimes we just got to let go of the things bothering us deep down and feel better.
If your major concerns are a dirty towel and missing finger nail clippers, you have a pretty damn good life, princess. People living in the streets, at war, war in the streets and your worried about a clean towel and finger nail clippers. Here's a thought: COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS, PRINCESS!!!!!!!!!
Here we go again. The war over the restroom. Your a big girl, deal with it. And no, you can't have your own way all the time "princess". Yeah, I like sex, but I'm not going to kiss your ass to get it. People are starving all over the world, the world may be at war again soon and your major concern is your finger nail clippers. Geeeeeeeeeeeeezzz. Get real. You could always get 2 pair of them. If these are your complaints for a relationship and for life in general, I would say you are pretty spoiled. Try living on the street sometime. Here's a thought: COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS, PRINCESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
After 10 plus yrs of marriage with a lady with whom freely admits We Both snore, We have come to terms......She gets to read and hopefully get under {asleep} before I come to bed an hour or so later & we swap out regularly. Additionally we have customized the bed and we both use ear plugs.If either one of us is snoring to the point the other can't sleep, we wake them up and have them reposition and go back to sleep. If this fails There is always the couch.
These seem like 5 things about living with another human being or having a close relationship, not about marriage per se. If you've ever had a roommate or housemate, you have to work out what to do about how clean things will be. Someday, you can have separate bathrooms, if you really want. In the meantime, it seems like a good way to learn how to resolve conflicts.
If you're dating, you're going to have to choose what to eat and what to see (a much easier problem to deal with, frankly, than who is going to get up at midnight to help your kid get back to sleep - and that's not even that bad.)
Maybe in the beginning a guy is courting you and does whatever you want, but that's not really fair. And actually, if you're buying the sushi and Thai food, you can bring it home and eat different things. You can take a bubble bath while he watches what he wants. Maybe part of the problem is if you try too hard to be joined at the hip.
Sure, you're not always going to get what you want, you have to compromise, but that's life. Stop moping and getting mad and have some fun.
I really like the closeness of a double bed, but there's no disgrace in going for twin beds if you can't sleep with another person.
My husband is the one who doesn't want to talk in the morning. I have learned not to try. This is just a question of adapting to each other over time. If this is all you have to hate about your marriage, stop complaining or call it something a little less strong than hatred.
If these are the only things you "hate" about being married, you generally have it made-it's called living with someone else; quit being so doggone selfish (one person even went as far as to refer to the article writer as "Princess," which, albeit derogatory in this case, hits the point spot-on).
The article sounds more like a cry for attention than true "hate." If these are what you "hate," then you deserve to instead be single (in my opinion)...
That first year I was married I remember thinking "HOLY COW THIS IS LIKE A FULL TIME JOB!" Marriage is hard, tough work, but if you can get through it, I think you better understand what it really means to love. Thanks for the honesty!