What Does His Porn Collection Say About Him?
Is there a deeper meaning behind his porn choices? Perhaps.
We read a statistic the other day. Something like "10 out of 10 men have admitted to masturbating to porn." Or maybe it was "100% of all men polled said they had masturbated to porn." Porn For The Blind
Point being: men (all men) like porn.
While, yes, some more so than others, and, yes, some claim to never touch the stuff (wink, wink), it's pretty safe to assume there was at least an errant Playboy floating around somewhere in his past.
So, it's only natural that us inquisitive and look-really-deep-into-everything ladies would wonder: what does his porn collection say about him? As if it's a dirty Rorschach blot or a Meyers Briggs Personality test dressed in fake boobs and bad acting. Is there a psychology behind his late-night (or mid-afternoon, whatever) double-clicks? Porn Camp To Open In Tampa
Lemondrop indulged us and even tapped a psychologist to help untangle this porno web.
Ian Kerner, PhD, author of Passionista and He Comes Next assures us that every man has a unique (heh) "lovemap" and, yes, there's something to be learned from what we find on his web browser's history.
If he's into drrrty schoolgirls and Barely Legal-type stuff:
"Guys realize that these aren't actual schoolgirls, but actresses performing a taboo—the 'naughty innocent,'" says Kerner.
Lemondrop then advises us to indulge him in his nymphette fantasies by wearing a "white-buttonup with a plaid mini", "call him daddy" and "make him talk you into sex" ("Are you sure I won't get suspended if we get caught?").
If he's into lesbian movies:
"Lesbian porn makes a guy feel like he's a voyeur and that he has a degree of power," Kerner says. "Also, guys are able to insert themselves into the scenario and to feel like he's at the center of the threesome."
So, the natural suggestion here would be to furnish your man with a threesome, right? Kerner advises against this and instead says you should masturbate in front of him. Eh, not the same thing—but it's something!
If he's into dominatrix themes:
"Many men feel like they always have to be in power and in control, or know it all when it comes to sex, so being able to submit to a woman is a strong fantasy. It could definitely mean that he'd like you to take more control in the bedroom, or that he'd like to explore this dynamic."
If he's into gay porn (ed note: uh oh!):
Discussion
my girlfriend loves porn too...i don't know about all that underage stuff...some people are sick... i mean it's ok to visit sites like myporndrive.com or just to have some sort of porn drive for certain things but people you gotta keep it legal please!
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My boyfriend has TONS of porn!!! I could care less about porn. He owns videos and magazines mainly of barely legal teen cuties. And you know what?... We have by far the BEST sex we've ever had combined throughout every number we have on our list of people we've hooked up with. He is 31 and I'm 21, so it works out well when we combine our acting skills with the naughtiness. We role-play (father-daughter) which really is naughty and it helps pull the c*m right out of him.
Majority of guys like girls that talk in the bedroom. They don't want to "make love" to a girl who isn't confident in herself and isn't adventurous enough to try new things. If they did want that, they'd be at home with their hand or a blow-up doll. Because those things would be of more excitement to them, then a girl who holds back because of her insecurity.
But yes, all of "What His Porn Collection Says About Him" is true. And fun!!! : )
I would have to respectfully disagree with Dr. Kerner's conclusions regarding what a man fascinated with 'lesbian porn' would want from his wife/girlfriend. That is, while I agree with the doctor that providing your husband/boyfriend with a threesome might not be a great idea, his suggestion of "masturbating in front of him" is just stupid! That's not what a guy interested in girl/girl stuff wants to see! Trust me, I know!
Far better would simply be to discuss what such an encounter would be like. That is, the wife/girlfriend should create her own scenario in her imagination of her being with another woman, and tell it to her husband/boyfriend. That would turn him on a whole lot more than simply "masturbating in front of him!" Men are visual, but they can also be incredibly turned on by the power of suggestion. Just hearing a woman discussing a "what if" scenario involving her and another woman could be incredibly arousing to a man who finds lesbian scenes erotic.
You know, I think sometimes we feel too much like we have to be tolerant and non-judgemental, no matter what. Sometimes we should make judgements and follow our gut - porn about schoolgirls is a red flag much bigger than being rude to the waitress or ketchup on eggs. http://www.yourtango.com/200684/relationship-red-flags.html
The same could be said about sadistic porn (not on this list, I guess no one wants to think about what it would mean about your boyfriend to find pictures of women bound and gagged and being whipped).
Other times, reactions are a chance to evaluate whether someone is right for you. I'm not sure what dominatrix porn looks like, but if a guy is jerking off to men in dog collars, I think it's okay to decide you don't want to date him.
And sometimes, it could be a good chance to talk - if a guy has a lot of gay porn, you can ask him if he's bisexual and talk about what that means.
