those 275 there were 7 guys that I corresponded with, six that I
exchanged either e-mails or phone numbers and 3 that I actually planned
to meet. The majority of them were very nice guys from all over the map, literally and figuratively!! All ages, all backgrounds and I even got one from Canada – and although I was very specific, under the “Who may contact you” section I specified: “Only users who are not married”, “Only users who have photos”, and “Only users who do NOT smoke”. Although these seem like pretty simple guidelines – I got smokers and even one married guy. One of the smokers even offered to quit for me… yeah, good way to start a relationship. He’s jonesing for a cancer stick and blaming me for everything – how could that go wrong? The
married guy explained that since he has been separated for 7 years and
never intends to get married again, he doesn’t even consider himself
married anymore. Hmmm, I informed him that fact might matter to most of the women he meets.
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Here’s where it turns into a big ol’ bucket of CHUM!!! I had several guys just outright say, “I know you’re out of my league, but…” Is that any way to start?? One of my favorites was from a nice gentleman who listed his height at UNDER 5’ tall… my own little nugget! While
that was tempting he had some tough competition with a 20 year old,
yes, a boy who can not even legally go out and have a drink and could
also be my son!!! I responded that he was too young and he just said he thought he’d give it a shot. I like that attitude. I had a marriage proposal from a 27 year old and a 55 year old guy offered to buy me a beach house!!! Now, of course I know they are kidding but you have one shot – that’s what you open with???? Ugh.
I also got a few guys who truly believe that persistence pays off. One
contacted me 4 times (with no response or prompting from me) trying to
convince me what a great guy and catch he was – I was not impressed. Another must have e-mailed 10 times (again with no response from me) to see if I would take a chance on him. Each time was more complimentary than the last and I still was not persuaded to contact him.