Plenty of Fish = Plenty of Chum

Plenty of Fish = Plenty of Chum
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So I recently put up a profile on PlentyofFish.com (“POF”) and I was unprepared for this experience.   A few friends of mine had done the same and I figured I would give it a try.  It’s a truly free dating site and if you’re willing to sift through the crap, who knows what you might find.

It works much like you would expect.  You
post a profile with your age, location, a little something about
yourself, some photos, take a little chemistry quiz and you’re off and
running.  You can search for people using different criteria – in a certain area, by age, etc.  Then you can contact people to see if there is a desire to meet or date or whatever.

My profile was short and to the point!!  Attractive blonde sick of games…  As soon as I posted my profile along with 6 photos I started getting e-mails and little annoying pop ups to instant message ("IM").  I
never took advantage of the IM feature and I never actually did a
search at all – My heart was not really in this so I was not proactive
at all.  I strictly went on the e-mails from people contacting me.


I got 27 e-mails the first day I was on POF.  I foolishly decided that I would be polite and answer everyone that contacted me.  I felt if these guys were going to take a minute to contact me and put
themselves out there then I could be courteous and let them know either
way.  HAHA – that was a silly idea and far too time consuming to imagine.  I had a profile on the site for about 10 days and received approximately 275 inquiry e-mails.  I answered about the first 30 letting them down easy, after that I just responded to the interesting ones…

Of
those 275 there were 7 guys that I corresponded with, six that I
exchanged either e-mails or phone numbers and 3 that I actually planned
to meet.  The majority of them were very nice guys from all over the map, literally and figuratively!!  All ages, all backgrounds and I even got one from Canada – and although I was very specific, under the “Who may contact you” section I specified: “Only users who are not married”, “Only users who have photos”, and “Only users who do NOT smoke”.  Although these seem like pretty simple guidelines – I got smokers and even one married guy.  One of the smokers even offered to quit for me… yeah, good way to start a relationship.  He’s jonesing for a cancer stick and blaming me for everything – how could that go wrong?  The
married guy explained that since he has been separated for 7 years and
never intends to get married again, he doesn’t even consider himself
married anymore.  Hmmm, I informed him that fact might matter to most of the women he meets.

 

Here’s where it turns into a big ol’ bucket of CHUM!!!  I had several guys just outright say, “I know you’re out of my league, but…  Is that any way to start??  One of my favorites was from a nice gentleman who listed his height at UNDER 5’ tall… my own little nugget!  While
that was tempting he had some tough competition with a 20 year old,
yes, a boy who can not even legally go out and have a drink and could
also be my son!!!  I responded that he was too young and he just said he thought he’d give it a shot.  I like that attitude.  I had a marriage proposal from a 27 year old and a 55 year old guy offered to buy me a beach house!!!   Now, of course I know they are kidding but you have one shot – that’s what you open with????  Ugh.

 

I also got a few guys who truly believe that persistence pays off.  One
contacted me 4 times (with no response or prompting from me) trying to
convince me what a great guy and catch he was – I was not impressed.  Another must have e-mailed 10 times (again with no response from me) to see if I would take a chance on him.  Each time was more complimentary than the last and I still was not persuaded to contact him.

My prize fish was a big hairy dude, and when I tell you he was “this big”, believe me!!  I get an e-mail with a photo of a very large, very unattractive white guy , with a "Grizzly Adams" beard holding  a large fish by the gills.  How appropriate for the site (Plenty of Fish – haha, what a sense of humor!)  But
wait, there’s more!!! He told me I had beautiful “tits” and asked if I
would like to do a threesome with one of his male friends.  He even offered to send photos of them and their “equipment”!  Wow, I don’t even know how I resisted an offer like that!!!  Believe me, I can’t make this stuff up!!!

Is POF worth your time?  That
depends on your situation… I did make a few new contacts with half a
dozen guys, they all seem to be normal, attractive guys.  I guess that remains to be seen.  Maybe if you don’t have time or outside activities to meet people, if you’re shy or new in town – then it could be for you.  I have lots of social activities and I am neither shy nor new in town.  So as the contestants used to tell Chuck Woolery on “Blind Date” – “I’m going to remain on my own”.  I’ll be back in two and two with another random blog.  Now a word from our sponsor…

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