How To Avoid Being A Passive Girlfriend
America's love experts Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal help a woman take control of her relationship.
YourTango user Lovebugg asked "How can I learn not to be passive in relationships, and not wait for the other person dictate the pace of the relationship?"
We went to America's love expert, Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal, for their advice on how to deal with this situation. For more advice from Matt and Tamsen, check out their website, Ask Matt and Tamsen.
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Discussion
I don't know that I have advice about how to be forward. I was saying that just as people should not feel that society requires them to be passive, they should not feel pressured to be forward. Everyone should do what works for them in terms of making them happy and comfortable,
Thanks for this amazing video!!! I have never really been the one to wait for a guy to approach me, but I have been the girl to let him take the lead in where the relationship goes after that. I mean, I called it being a lady, but in the end it is just a backwards way of thinking for a modern woman. I saw this video for the first time about 3 weeks ago- and I was starting to date anew man. I must say, when I applied the advice you two gave me in this video, I saw myself being more fulfilled in that relationship. We are separated now due to drastic changes in location, but I truly felt that I learned more about myself as the relationship grew. Short and sweet as it was, I will remember it forever thanks to the advice I applied from this video.
I don't think this is very good advice. It seems to be basically telling people they should be less passive, not how to change if they want to. Furthermore, being passive is not necessarily a bad thing, although I recognize the letter's writer wanted to change.
i think this dude is right on the money. when you were young, maybe people didnt give you what you need.....but now...you are older....go out and get, ask for, create what you need. just do it. :)
