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Learning About Love From Dad

This Father's Day think about all the love advice dad gave you.

This Father's Day it's nice to remember that dads are pretty important to learning the ropes when it comes to love and relationships, especially for boys. I'd say that if you compare dad's presence, when it comes to love stuff, with a NASA rocket that dad's presence, when it comes to love stuff, is way more important.

Dudes who grow up without a dad (or at least an active, positive male role model, like a Bernie Mac character) are at a serious disadvantage when it comes to romance. While some of 'em figure it out, lots are mama's boys, resentful of women or, weirdly, both (think Norman Bates but generally less violent or likely to cross-dress).

Dads who care, even really cool dads who let you drink beer, provide a grounding and safety. Per MSNBC, involved dads curb risky teen sex (unprotected sex, not necessarily anything pertaining to fire or chainsaws) at about twice the rate of involved moms. Maybe "involved dads" are intimidating to teen Don Julios [sic]. Maybe they reluctantly buy condoms or birth control because they know their kids are way past heavy petting with their boyfs / girlfs (they maybe even be rounding third and heading home as we speak).

While NO ONE enjoys discussing the nuts and bolts (double entendre!) of sex with any family member (save sage older, same-gender siblings), dads are sometimes a great source of advice on making night moves. Alec Baldwin's character in Outside Providence tells his moron son, "Making sex is like Chinese dinner, it ain't over 'til you both get your cookies." Wonderful. Em & Lo put together a fantastic list of accidental sex advice that people get from dad (God, do I agree with their sentiment about passing gas as mixed-company humor).

Can you relate?

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Qverb Taken Rugburns, sarcasm, giggling, beautiful
Can Relate - Posted June 26, 2009

Never really got down to the basics with my Dad either, but he tried valiantly one night in my youth if I was using protection since he knew my girl and I (the first one ever actually) were "Knocking Boots"...late November of 96.

His actual gift to me was teaching me, by showing me, how much really does come to the man who is patient!

Aside from that, Rudolph's nose couldn't get redder than my old man when it comes to trying to seriously discuss sex with either myself or my brother...

but he was always quick to try and get us the female action figures as kids, referring to one female hero with a silver chest plate by telling me to "grab the one with the silver bullets." I think the whole store heard the whack he got upside the head from mom!

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