I learned the hard way how important it is not to be naïve about my feelings. Just because I didn't have a problem with strip clubs when I was young and single didn't mean that I wouldn't find a visit to one disrespectful and hurtful the week before my wedding. More importantly, no matter how good your relationship is, that guy you're with can't know how you feel if you don't tell him!
Six months into our marriage, and I've already been able to put my "strip club" lesson to good use. From the mundane, "When I'm under deadline, the noise of the television is very distracting," to the more significant, "Sure my family's crazy, but you're not allowed to say they are." When I tell him how I feel, my husband is quite good at respecting those feelings. So perhaps I have to thank my husband for his pre-wedding faux pas: sometimes, the clarity brought on by a car full of guys headed to a strip club is invaluable.