thanks for the answer Melanie.

In all honesty this relationshiop can't go anywhere right now. He is aking care of his mentally ill mother and 2 young children. I'm living home with my mother since my dad died. So we are in agreement that our lives are a little out of sync. Our friendship is important to both of us. I'm just not sure how to maintain the friendship. We enjoy each others company and seems like the last several months have turned into a "psuedo" relationship. And it all feels so good and right to me but I know that I personally am not ready for a "serious" relationship myself.

Im just don't think he believes me when I tell him that. I guess maybe we are both giving each other mixed signals. we show affection towards but he isn't ready to say yeah we're "together" cause he is still married. but everyone around here just assumes we are a couple. i.e. I talk to a mutual friend in the store and he sends messeges thru me.

Is this way to complicated and How do you exit this kinda situation?