20 Relationships And Technology Dos And Don'ts
Text messages, emails, love oh my! Advice about technology and relationships.
Ever sent a sexy text to your boyfriend... and then realized it was actually to your boss? Do you know your partner's email password? Are you constantly checking your Blackberry—even when you're on a date? Even if you've never experienced these tech troubles, it's likely that you've encountered the intersection of technology and relationships—and maybe you've wondered how to set some rules for yourself and your partner. Below, 20 dos and don'ts when mixing love with the latest technology. What are your rules? Let us know in the comments.
DO plug in your significant other's iPhone, Blackberry or computer in when you see the juice is low.
DO share the joke with your spouse if you laugh out loud at something on your Blackberry or phone.
DO text and email your spouse with the same care you did when you first started dating. Grocery lists and forwards don't count as correspondence. Make time to send sweet-nothings to each other over Facebook, IM, and email. Watch: Love Letters Made Easy
DO upload new music to your honey's iPod and new books to his/her Kindle. New tunes and words will be a sweet surprise and will show that you've been thinking of them while they were away.
DON'T exchange email passwords with your partner no matter how good of an idea it seems.
DON'T hack into your partner's email or phone, read the messages, assume they are cheating on you, freak out and post your suspicions on a social network or a web site. When Snooping Gets Out of Control
DO save cute texts, email and voicemails.
DON'T send flirty text messages or emails on your company Blackberry unless you want to explain "gr8 morning sex!" to the Director of IT.
DO set a time limit for internet surfing while you're hanging out together.
DO give technology as a gift, but not for a romantic occasion. Note! If you need to charge it up, plug it in or program it, it probably doesn't make for a good (read: romantic) anniversary present. Poll: What Gift Makes Your Heart Melt?
DON'T email or browse the net while talking to or on the phone with the other person. You may think you're a multi-tasking queen (or king), but it's distracting for both of you and it makes it seem like you only half-care about what he's talking about.
DON'T bring up important topics in a medium that your partner is uncomfortable with. (Don't text him that you're going to miss dinner if he's a bad texter. Don't IM him that you're mad at him if he prefers to hear your voice.)
DO have a discussion with your partner about what technologies are OK for big discussions. (IM can be a great way to talk about emotional topics, for example, since you have time to formulate your thoughts before typing and you're less likely to blurt something out in anger.) How to Keep Your Man: Communication
DO refrain from using emoticons and/or tech lingo (eg. LOL, ROTFL), if it annoys your partner.
DO put away your Blackberry or phone on important occasions—like when you have a rare date night without the kids—and ask your partner to do the same.
Discussion
thats how me n my bf communicate each day when we cant see each other. He's my wake up call. I get a text in the morning saying something sweet like,"Morning beautiful"or "did u sleep well? and at night i get "i love u good night" its an easy way to keep in touch
I agree with the comment from BookMama, Why would you do any activity with your child if all your going to do is talk on the phone? Your just there physically but not emotionally and children know the difference. If your child has oppositional defiance disorder they need even more of your attention.
I used to write emails to my boyfriend everyday,I think it's a good way to communicate with each other,especially in a long distance-relationship,just remember that when you are doing this,focus on it,turn off your cellphone,turn down the music player in computer.
Ok so me and Jesse are breaking technology barriers......Do Not fight with your partner via text or im......That has caused alot of out of hand fighting between us......We too have the habit of him being on his pc me being on mine.....So I guess we need to make special time too.....lmao we instant message each other from different rooms in the house.
I use e-mail to remind my husband about things he needs to do so that I don't say it over and over. (Of course, then I have to send only one e-mail!) Sometimes it's easier to get him to check his schedule and sent it to me by e-mail when he's at work than later on when we're all at home.
I actually enjoy having my husband sit near me with his laptop while I watch McLeod's daughters or read.
Getting sweet screen savers on your desktop can be nice. Slide shows of things you've done together are nice, too.
A low-tech technology don't: don't spend so much time taking photos or videos that you forget to enjoy the experience! Life is not a photo shoot.
My biggest technology don't is parents talking on cell phones and ignoring their kids. What's the point of taking them to the park then?
