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 I met the father of my kids when I was 19 and he became physically, mentally and verbally abusive as soon as we moved-in together which was about 6 months after we met.  I was with him for seven years and can honestly say I never ever fell in-live with this man....I had a very hard relationship with this man, so naturally when i finally left him the last thing I ever wanted was to be in the same situation. For years I went out of my to make sure anyone I met knew that I was not going to take any bullsh**, then I met my husband George and he is the most wonderful man I have ever met in my life.  We dated for 3 1/2 yrs and have been married for 3 yrs and in the 6 1/2 years I've known him I can honestly say that he has yet to even raise his voice.  But it wasn't until yesterday that I looked into his eyes and told him that I was In-Love with him...It was the most terrifying 5 min of life I never thought I would ever know what it was to love someone the way I love my husband.  I feel extremely lucky and grateful that I will not have missed out on something as beautiful as Love...


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