Man Sues Dating Site
Find out why one man was so fed up with Match.com he filed suit.
There's little else that feels as bad as unrequited love. It's a theme that has been present in some of the most prolific love stories (or tragedies, one might say). One man from Brooklyn recently filed suit against Match.com, an Internet dating website, claiming it is leading on its members, reports New York's Daily News.
The whopping $5 million federal lawsuit is being brought against the site by a 37-year-old Brooklynite. The claim is that Match.com fails to remove members who are no longer active from its dating pool, leading other paying members to try and contact them and wonder why they never hear back. Finding someone on the site who is attractive and has potential as a possible mate and then making contact... only to never hear back can leave members feeling needlessly rejected, their confidence bruised, the man claims.Dating, Adventurist Style
It will be curious to see if Sean McGinn wins his case. We understand that not hearing back from a love interest can lead to feelings of disappointment and rejection, but really, we say, welcome to the world of dating, Mr. McGinn. We start to wonder if paying members of dating websites start to think that because they're paying, dating will go as they want. Dating will always involve a series of wins and losses, hopefully more of the former. Of course, in this case, this is not really rejection, because the inactive members no longer received correspondence so it was not as if they were actively deciding whether or not to respond.
Readers, what do you think? Do paying members of dating sites expect to have an easier time with dating... because they shelled out cash?
Discussion
Qverb is absolutely right . You are supposed to get what you paid for. If you're no longer a member your picture or profile doesn't belong to there any longer and to be used as bait is dishonest . For me its smells as something akin to fraud .
I don't think its a feeling of being able to have more success with dating because you are paying, but getting what you paid for.
I was a Match member with the full subscription. Sticking to only issues with the site, I can understand how many will feel that paying for a date sight is a sign of more serious intent, and that is all well and good, but, aside from the "ala carte" set up on Match where you pay for every little thing, they give you no indication that the person you are trying to meet is even able to read a message you've sent them (that costs a little extra). As Sean is also saying, they do horribly at maintaining their website in terms of the status of their members. Aside from not removing people who have unsubscribed or even giving them a real option to remove their profile, you would at least expect that a site for which you are paying a membership to use to its fullest would also actively weed out bogus members. This is targeted at men. At least every week I would see 4 new "female" members pop up, only to read the same profile 4 times with pictures of 4 different women.
At first I would report all of them. Over time I got tired of it and tired of Match. Then, after I finally cancelled my subscription out of frustration I start getting notified on my personal email from Match that "Someone is trying to contact you; you have a new message in your box. Click here to subscribe and read you message."
It was bogus. There was no new message, no one trying to contact me, nothing.
As I said, I'll agree that paying for a site doesn't guarantee I'll get a date, and I didn't expect it to just magically work out for me, but I believe there are certain things you should be able to expect of a service provider that you are paying for. You wouldn't pay a maid that didn't due all of her duties or only did them half-ass, so why not expect a dating website to provide a safe atmosphere with current profiles, correct notifications, and the ability to know that the woman whose profile blew you away won't be able to read the message you sent her?
