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From Tragedy To Togetherness: The Story Of A Flood

Flood survivors recount how they lost everything but kept their marriages together.

For two weeks in June 2008, heavy rains and widespread flooding pummeled the Midwest. The nation's worst natural disaster since Hurricane Katrina, the floodwaters decimated downtown Cedar Rapids, Iowa, causing an estimated five billion dollars in damage and displacing over 2,000 people. The waters of the Cedar River crested at 31.2 feet, the highest in the town's 168-year history. The flood ripped buildings from their foundations, tumbling and twisting homes and offices.

My husband and I watched all of this on the news. "Look," said my husband pointing to the television. "It's the library." Only one floor of the two-story concrete building was showing above the water. The white walls reflected against the dark water. I remembered how I had just returned some books there only the day before; I started crying.

The flood ruined our town. Our home was lucky enough to be spared damage, but the marketing company where I worked was destroyed. Six months after the flood, I helped hang a banner declaring that the company was back in newly remodeled offices. The next day, I was laid off. Several more layoffs followed. The waters had receded, but the effects of the flood were still being felt. The flood caused approximately 7,000 job losses. In a city of 126,000 that loss hurts, and that was before the full brunt of the recession hit. Read: Money Saving Tips

As a couple, my husband and I volunteered—gutting and cleaning homes and businesses until I got sick with migraines and nausea. The doctor chalked my illness up to allergies and tensions from the flood. The stress took a toll. I yelled at my husband when I thought he'd violated the water ban (we could only use water in our house on the odd calendar days). He rolled his eyes when I cried in front of the news. We stopped going out to eat; our favorite restaurants had been filled with water. The effects of the disaster were wearing on us, and we hadn't even lost our home. 

On June 9, 2008 Linda, 65, and Max, 62, were evacuated from their home where they had lived for 30 years. "We didn't think it would be too bad. Maybe just the basement would have water," says Max. 

"We walked out of our home with the clothes on our backs," Linda says. "We lost everything in the flood." But she shakes her head and quickly corrects herself. "Well, not everything." She smiles and leans in toward Max. Their house was filled with eight feet of water. A small sign on their newly painted living room wall marks the flood line.

Linda has short dark hair, wears a gold cross around her neck and shimmery pink lipstick. Max's ruddy face is quick to smile. While Linda does most of the talking, he lets me know what he thinks. This is a man who's perfected the art of the eye roll. When I first meet Linda and Max, Linda wants to know if they should talk about their sex life. Before I can answer, Max says, "Sex, what sex?" They both laugh.

Can you relate?

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LostinOttawa Complicated
This Happened To Me! - Posted June 13, 2009

My family lost our home to the flood that hit Ottawa, OH in August of 2007. It wiped out everything we had :( I still cry when I see the river coming up! We have had huge ups and down since then, but my husband (of 12years) and I are still struggling... we have a new place and each other yet we still seem to be floating apart :( He felt it was a new beginning for all of us and I felt devastated. How do we survive like this? Any help would be greatly appreciated...
~Lost~

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BookMama Married Happily Married
Posted June 13, 2009

My husband likes moving much more than I do. Basically, he likes going somewhere new and would probably move every five years if he could I am more attached to our physical home. When we have moved, I have had to work harder to find myself a community of friends.

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Lyz Married Community Manager
Posted June 12, 2009

Thanks! I saw a documentary of the flood tonight and I bawled like a baby :)

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BookMama Married Happily Married
Posted June 13, 2009

It was on NPR twice yesterday.

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genevieve Single
Posted June 11, 2009

It's great to read about a rainbow (stronger relationships) emerging from hardship like this. Thanks for sharing your and your neighbors' stories, Lyz.

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