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Cooking For Yourself


I was married for 15 years. I love cooking, but as I am half Jewish and half Italian, I prefer to cook for others. Tonight was a big breakthrough in my life. My boyfriend was engaged with a project at work and was not able to come over, my kids are still at their dad's house and I was hungry. I went to the store and found a beautiful filet of Copper River Salmon. Imagining it paired with baby red potatoes and fresh asparagus made my mouth water. Not able to bear another frozen meal or can of soup, I purchased all the fixins for my evening meal. I even grilled my salmon on my bbq - my charcoal bbq that I started myself.
I guess that cooking has always been an expression of love for me. So cooking for myself seemed kind of ridiculous. But when you've never really been single (I've spent my entire adult life either in a relationship or married) than it is hard to do much of anything for yourself. I know now that I don't have to wait for someone else to do something nice for myself.


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