Dumped At The Altar

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On national television. The show's called "Hitched or Ditched." We call this entertainment?


Let the unraveling begin. The final disaster involves Travis, in a display of jealousy, crashing CeLisa's bachelorette party finding her surrounded by shirtless men who are dancing and dousing the wedding-party girls with drinks. Travis asks CeLisa to leave with him; she refuses. 

 

 

The Alter of Truth

Still, the couple makes it to the chapel (er, set) on time. They stand at the alter. The presiding minister asks if anyone thinks the couple should not get married. Stares bounce around and a few "You better not" warnings escape CeLisa's lips. The bride is asked the big question. Do you want to marry this man? Yes, she says. The final question goes to the groom. Do you want to marry this woman? His answer goes something like this, "You look beautiful. I love you. But no, I don't think we should get married." Jump to shot of deflated bride, crying her eyes out. (Watch the final two minutes of the episode here.)

While we were cringing at some points during Hitched or Ditched, it may actually provide an accurate glimpse into modern love. It begs two questions from us. First, do outsiders really see a relationship more clearly than the two people immersed in it? If yes, why is that? Ultimately, even though the couple did not  fully understand why their families were against their marriage, "family knows best" won out.

As for our second question, just when did one of these two know their relationship wasn't marriage material? This couple dated for four years. If push had not come to shove, would they have dated for four more? We'd venture a guess that one of them probably knew as early as one year into the relationship that marriage was not in the picture. Maybe couples today can get too comfortable, or even trapped, in this middle zone that is serious and exclusive but not marriage. If it takes a show like this to help couples either get it to the next level or end it, so be it. At least now this man and woman can get on with their lives. We wonder if setting a decision-making time limit would be good for all couples. If yes, what would it look like—one year, two years, two-and-a-half? Four years is a long time.

Readers, check out clips of the show here and let us know your take!