What To Do If He Doesn't Believe In Marriage
Marriage means different things to different people
"My boyfriend said he wants to spend the rest of his life with me but he doesn't believe in marriage. What's going on? -Kate, Ohio
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Discussion
if there is "true love" then the person would have no bit with marriage in the first place. If there is that "true love" then why should there be a debate over whether or not you want to spend the rest of your life with that person.
Marriage is a commitment and a promise. Like the proof that you really do love someone.
Not from a guy's perspective, he may want you, but not the pile of s**t that comes with marriage...and it's always a pile of s**t...always
only f****t like you would get married. any man with a brain would never get married under these draconian feminist laws. why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free!
this reminded me of a quote by Jennifer Aniston in He's Just Not That Into You..."BULL s**t!!! BULL s**t to all the women who were told by some guy that they don't believe in marriage, and then 6 months later they're married to some 24 yr old they met at the gym!!" lol....that's what I mostly hear from guys in my circle, fear of eternally committing to someone and of "missing out" on what's out there...
in my opinion... if you love the person.. and they truly believe in marriage... you wouldn't mind getting married with them...
But, don't expect a perso who doesn't want marriage to change for the person who wants marriage.
No one is can force the latter... if you guys can't feel happy to change for your SO there isn't a point to stay together you will be constantly fight over this issue.
This video is like from the 'Mr. Bad Advice' column!! If the cat doesn't want to marry YOU he doesn't SEE you as a potential partner. And he prolly never, ever will.
DON'T SETTLE FOR LESS THAN WHAT YOU THINK YOU DESERVE!! If you think you should have a ring, a dress and the ceremony, then get with someone who is going to go thru that with you ... going to the justice of the peace is fine too ...
but don't let 'girlfriend' supplant 'wife' in your heart and mind!!
The act of marriage is a covenant through a vow of fidelity for life. He doesn't like marriage because he doesn't anticipate being faithful for life through thick and thin. Its a bad alarm in my book. Dump him on the curb YESTERDAY. if he re-evaluates his slick ways & commits - fine. If not, you'll have saved yourself some future time lost.
This comment is very short sighted. I hope you get help for your trust issues.
If there's genuine love in a relationship, there is no need for a marriage. And if there is no true love, then marriage cannot force it, so why bother?
maybe his parents don't believe in marriage....
thus his children won't believe in marriage... if he has any...?!
Personally, I would end the relationship. It sounds like you and your boyfriend want different things and are going on different paths. If you decide to stay in the relationship then its important to not hold marriage over his head. Some couples can leave together for a number of years successfully like Gene Simmons and Shannon Tweed BUT PROTECT YOURSELF FINANCIAL. If you get a house together make sure your name is on the deed too!!! I wish you the best KATE!! : )
Those rings around the doll's necks look like SLAVE SHACKLES. Bad, bad, bad choice of picture considering the subject at hand. Anyway, my two brothers are divorced, my parents are divorced. Marriage sucks, it just means the guy gets a beer gut, and women will get fat, and lots of pain and stress when the unavoidable divorce rears its ugly head. Women just want to sink their hooks into someone they can use financially, and call it "love". SCREW MARRIAGE, it's both a trap and a lie!!!!
ever consider that maybe your family is just made up of a bunch of intolerable men
This video is about finding alternatives to marriage for a reason, but according to you every time a relationship doesn't work it's always "the guy's fault", right? you prejudice, feminist jackass! Oh and now, you have to STAY MARRIED longer than 42 years like my parents did, since you're talking badly about my dad, and acting like your poop smells better. Lets see how long YOU last. When it doesn't last half as long, please think of me screaming in your face *I WIN!*. See you then! ;)
I think its stupid to stay together for the rest of your life and NOT get married. Thats just not logical.
marriage is stupid, if you wanan break up with them then u gotta go through all legal s**t, if yopu stay as bf,gf then you just break up and thats it...
It would be nice if it was that simple, remember when you move in together and live long enough, the guy automatically looses half of his stuff, I don't know why or how but it has happened to a few friends of mine. Now you tell me, do you think it's that simple?
