Hi, and thanks for the feedback.
I didn't expect it to be featured, for one thing. I was quite surprised.
This all sounds like good advice. I may have mistakenly given the wrong impression about my wardrobe and my job, though. I love the job, it's different every day, but on the bad days - well, we have all been there. I think part of it is I just don't have the energy I used to have.
I don't come across desperate - in fact, don't socialize enough (where there are men) to come across as anything. It is hard when you are not a drinker, to be out and about at night, especially when you get up at 5.
I've done the online thing and made one good friend, but that is all. It just didn't work for me.
I will make a conscious effort to be more positive in my outlook. I do have many riches in my life which I treasure, and despite a lack of confidence, I can handle myself pretty well in public.
The wardrobe comments made me howl. I didn't realize I was so frumpy! I feel like the lady with the wonderful voice on "Britain's Got Talent." I will get a younger friend to shop with me - no more persuading needed to shop, ha ha. Spas aren't my thing, either, but I do know how to spend money!