15 Relationship Mistakes Women Make
Women make relationship mistakes. It happens. But here are a few we wish we could quit!
6. Waiting for someone to find us, instead of going out and finding someone ourselves.
7. Thinking that a perfect relationship should be easy. Relationships require work and compromise; a perfect relationship means doing those things well.
8. Dropping our friends when we're falling in love. Friends help define who we are, and we need them when things get tough.
9. Thinking that getting a boyfriend or husband will solve all our problems. No one can fix our lives for us! Sound In: How can I learn to not be passive in relationships?
10. Using the silent treatment. Our partners can't read our minds; he won't know what's wrong unless we suck up and tell him.
11. Not asking for what we want in bed. It can be as little as an appreciative moan when he does something good or as much as a frank discussion about our fantasies. Again, he can't read minds, and we'll both benefit from knowing what we find pleasurable.
12. Denying that there's a problem in our marriage or relationship, instead of facing it and asking ourselves what needs to be done. Problems don't usually go away on their own. Letting them fester only makes it worse.
13. Thinking that depending on someone else is a weakness. Leaning on someone else sometimes is the sign of a healthy relationship.
14. Over-analyzing. There's analysis and then there's over-analysis. Wondering why the fiance didn't call once during his bachelor weekend in Vegas? A legitimate case for analysis. Wondering why he only called twice and not three times during a guys' night out? Not so much.
15. Trying to reinvent the relationship wheel. If some items on this list feel cliche, it's because they are! If we would only listen to a good dose of love advice now and again, we'd probably save ourselves some heartache. Love Advice From Mom
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Discussion
other than not being a female. this article was very important to me as a tool to understand my significant other. however, i just called it off. it was hard and i find myself thinking about it. was it a mistake,? my eyes lit up when the writer mentioned fairytales and compromise. i dont see my self as a prince charming or a mind reader,. however, where is the compromise. i have come to the center so many times so to speak, but have felt alone and COMPROMISED<,, hello.. is anyone there, what does it mean when she said i was comming around but you werent patient... i know this is pretty bland of some information and a particular situation but i hope that you know what i am trying to say...
i agree, respect is probably the most important aspect in any relationship. if he doesn't respect you, how can it even work? it can't!
Respect! Does he act like not only does he like you and love you, but also respect you? Does he respect your mind and ideas? Your body and physical space? Your friends and family? (he doesn't have to necessarily like them, but does he respect *your* relationship with them or decision to have a relationship with them?
More importantly, do you still put up with and excuse behavior that is disrespectful? Why do you still think it's okay for *anyone*, let alone the person who says he loves you, to treat you disrespectfully? You can be angry, tired, hungry and be yelling, snippy or just quiet-- but there is never a reason that can explain or excuse being treated disrespectfully.
And the thing most women forget all the time-- Do you respect him? How many times do we make snide "stupid men" comments right in front of them? Does he make decisions or lead his life in a way that you might not always agree with, but you respect his decisions and how his mind thinks? How many times do you try to hold desperately to a guy, only to think back and realize you didn't even like him. (Maybe you loved him, but you really didn't like him)
Love comes and goes. Once respect is gone, it's very, very difficult to get it back.
Very very true.........respect and honesty, I believe are the foundations of a truely happy relationship. One without the other........forget about it......
I was in a relationship for three years. This man had absolutely no respect for me or women in general. The more I tried to earn his respect, the less I got. That being said,after a while, I in turn had no respect for him. We were doomed!!
Funny thing is, we had alot in common. We laughed alot, loved the same things and had a strong physical attraction for each other. But when he talked to me...... , it was sometimes down right rude or like he was my boss. He lacked communication skills and extremely selfish. I thought, over time, as he really got to know me and my accomplishments I aquired in my life, I would get the respect from him I deserved.....It only got worse.
one of the mistakes that i wish i never did on my past relationship was "I let him know that I'm going gaga over him. sometimes showing how you really love a person is a good thing but once you put your self aside to please him then the failure of the relationship will definitely follow.
Sometimes it is unfortunate that why people we want to love, choose not to love us back. I strongly believe that we all have a match in this word but need to wait until we can get a serious relationship with us and will last. When one attempt to a relationship fails, it simply meant to be. If you are affected with the pain because of the relationship, always remember you can recover it. This could be easily dealt with if only our emotions are not evolved when we start to feel strongly for someone but more often than not ,the heart rules strongly over our head.
