15 Relationship Mistakes Women Make
Women make relationship mistakes. It happens. But here are a few we wish we could quit!
It's said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. So, yes, we know that snooping around our S.O.'s email account is a bad idea and that believing in the fairy-tale love stories we grew up reading is silly, but sometimes we find ourselves giving these relationship moves the ol' college try! The results? Not so successful. Plus, we start to feel unbalanced, and perhaps rightly so.
This point is this: there are certain relationship mistakes women make over and over again. Like sleeping in a bad position and waking with a stiff neck, we sometimes don't realize we're blundering and repeating until the ouch factor comes into play. Well, it's time to stop. We're declaring once and for all: let's quit! Quitters sometimes prosper, especially when lousy habits get left behind. Here's the list of relationship blunders we wish we ladies would stop making.
1. Thinking we'll never get over him. We will. Two months and several powdered donuts later... we'll feel better. Read Dumped? 10 Healthy Ways To Heal
2. Hacking into email or phones looking for suspicious messages and then yelling at him for the "k thnx bye" text he sent to his female co-worker two months ago. "k thnx" is not code for "hot steamy sex." (Is it?)
3. Thinking our partners must be interested in everything we do, think and say. When it comes down to it, we zone out when men talk about circuit boards, right? Having a best friend or gab partner outside a relationship is a good thing. Watch Should My Spouse Be My Best Friend?
4. Displacing. Freud was right with this one. If we're mad at him because he ate our tasty restaurant leftovers out of the fridge, tell him we're mad at him because he ate our tasty restaurant leftovers out of the fridge. Don't turn it into a commitment issue.
5. Putting so much energy into the idea of a fairy-tale romance that we're disappointed with anything less. Read Romantic Comedies Warp Your Brain
Discussion
other than not being a female. this article was very important to me as a tool to understand my significant other. however, i just called it off. it was hard and i find myself thinking about it. was it a mistake,? my eyes lit up when the writer mentioned fairytales and compromise. i dont see my self as a prince charming or a mind reader,. however, where is the compromise. i have come to the center so many times so to speak, but have felt alone and COMPROMISED<,, hello.. is anyone there, what does it mean when she said i was comming around but you werent patient... i know this is pretty bland of some information and a particular situation but i hope that you know what i am trying to say...
i agree, respect is probably the most important aspect in any relationship. if he doesn't respect you, how can it even work? it can't!
Respect! Does he act like not only does he like you and love you, but also respect you? Does he respect your mind and ideas? Your body and physical space? Your friends and family? (he doesn't have to necessarily like them, but does he respect *your* relationship with them or decision to have a relationship with them?
More importantly, do you still put up with and excuse behavior that is disrespectful? Why do you still think it's okay for *anyone*, let alone the person who says he loves you, to treat you disrespectfully? You can be angry, tired, hungry and be yelling, snippy or just quiet-- but there is never a reason that can explain or excuse being treated disrespectfully.
And the thing most women forget all the time-- Do you respect him? How many times do we make snide "stupid men" comments right in front of them? Does he make decisions or lead his life in a way that you might not always agree with, but you respect his decisions and how his mind thinks? How many times do you try to hold desperately to a guy, only to think back and realize you didn't even like him. (Maybe you loved him, but you really didn't like him)
Love comes and goes. Once respect is gone, it's very, very difficult to get it back.
Very very true.........respect and honesty, I believe are the foundations of a truely happy relationship. One without the other........forget about it......
I was in a relationship for three years. This man had absolutely no respect for me or women in general. The more I tried to earn his respect, the less I got. That being said,after a while, I in turn had no respect for him. We were doomed!!
Funny thing is, we had alot in common. We laughed alot, loved the same things and had a strong physical attraction for each other. But when he talked to me...... , it was sometimes down right rude or like he was my boss. He lacked communication skills and extremely selfish. I thought, over time, as he really got to know me and my accomplishments I aquired in my life, I would get the respect from him I deserved.....It only got worse.
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one of the mistakes that i wish i never did on my past relationship was "I let him know that I'm going gaga over him. sometimes showing how you really love a person is a good thing but once you put your self aside to please him then the failure of the relationship will definitely follow.
Sometimes it is unfortunate that why people we want to love, choose not to love us back. I strongly believe that we all have a match in this word but need to wait until we can get a serious relationship with us and will last. When one attempt to a relationship fails, it simply meant to be. If you are affected with the pain because of the relationship, always remember you can recover it. This could be easily dealt with if only our emotions are not evolved when we start to feel strongly for someone but more often than not ,the heart rules strongly over our head.
