Gay Porn Can Teach Men About Straight Sex
8 tips straight men can learn from gay porn (without watching it).
I've tried to get my boyfriends to watch guy-on-guy porn with me. They're game to watch pseudo-lesbians paw each other, but they draw the line at man love. But there's a lot a guy could learn about sex by watching two dudes go at it. So, I've decided to give guys the cheat sheet on what they could learn from gay porn.
1. We All Want To Feel Someone: Men take the blame for wanting anal sex, but a lot of women want to do it, too. Men have something back there that'll get them off—the prostate. All I'm sayin' is, you scratch my back, I'll scratch yours. Read: A Girl's Guide to Anal Sex
2. Be Aggressive: Gay porn can be a little rougher, and still consensual. Something about a man throwing a woman against the wall to kiss you is sexy. It shows you want to do me, with passion. I'm not made of porcelain; I won't break. Feel free to let me know how bad you want it.
3. Wear Nice Underwear: Packaging does a lot for a package. Leopard banana hammocks are more of a niche market, but a decent pair of tightie-whities is a total improvement.
4. Role Equality: We both have the ability to be "the top" or "the bottom." Sometimes, I want to be the one taking the lead, and sometimes I don't. That doesn't make anyone less of a woman—or a man, for that matter.
5. Trim Your Hedges: Our secret gardens are always growing, so you've got to maintain yours. No one is saying that you've got to weed the whole place, but, you know, you gotta keep up with your manscaping.
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Discussion
I don't like to consider myself to be a girl who can't appreciate feeling that people have for others. If a woman likes a woman, great. If a man likes a man, great. If a woman like a man, great. Porn is where I draw my line with relationship types other than my own (heterosexual). I don't care that the porn is out there, I don't care to see it though. I do admit, that while neutral about gay men in general, I feel vile inside at even the thought of man/man sex. Not surprisingly, I feel just as grossed out by two women. I am unmoved (but less weirded out) by straight porn. I will watch it occasionally, but more to see what people are doing. The only porn I actually enjoy it Hentai, because it tends to either be funny or fantastical, and either way, it actually has a plot that doesn't involve some sort of "home delivery".
A lot of what I learned about sex I learned through the pages of countless hustler magazines as a child. I later supplimented this knowledge with all types of pornography including straight, FF, MM, threesomes, orgys, bondage, furry, Hentai, and plenty more. There's always something to learn, and in that process you will learn some of what you like and some of what you don't like.
I would never encourage my man to watch any sort of porn, but I would never forbid it either. I feel that people need ways to explore their fantasies, some explore gay men and learn something, I explore tentacle sex and I learned I never want to be with an oversexed demon-god. I'm pretty sure that that is probably less accepted that gay porn. And I'm pretty sure that all of these lessons can be taught using straight porn, or even a little common sense.
I've seen gay porn...life of a straight male dancer takes some interesting twists. Still, I've seen nothing in it that was really any different from well made straight porn. I agree, most men will be completely repulsed by it, mostly due to social stigmatas about what it means to be manly. Most porn lovin' women don't care for the all cowboy action either. Lets face, ladies, you may love looking a naked man who is all ripped and hard (wheres the fun if hes limp, right?) but the thought of 2 guys like that going at it doesn't get you all excited, well, most of you. Men aren't as sensual or erotic as women are. A guy can learn a little more from watching a good lesbian porn (the bi-girls I've known love Kobe Tai lesbian scenes).
If this is an attempt to get guys to be more open to exploring their own anal pleasure possibilities, it won't work. Some guys'll try, most won't out of fear. The ones that will try were willing already, and they aren't all gay.
Unfortunately this article will have trouble getting to the homophobia brigade. Its actually pretty sad that some people are so threatened by another person's sexual preference. I'm not saying thats the reason that almost no one will click on this article, there are always people that have no problem with the homosexual lifestyle so long as they aren't being made to see the intimate or affectionate moments. Yeah, thats still pretty sad. I'd hate it if people made me feel awkward for holding the hand of the person I love, for kissing them because I felt like it, or doing any other number of acceptable public displays of affection. I'm an affectionate kinda guy, so why should I look down on anyone else who is showing affection.
I'd say my only real disturbance with the article is that the 2 guys in the picture are kinda the urban stereo-typical hot gay guy couple. Where's the reality in that? OH YEAH....i forgot this all started with porn.
Not sure I agree that hetero men watching two gay men have sex will teach the hetero man anythng. In fact I totally disagree. MOst all hetero men would never watch gay men do it. Most would find it repulsive. Am I alone or does anyone agree?
Odly enough though-straight women don't mind all that much watching lesbian(if done tastefully) sex with her guy(maybe even watching with other women,I don't know). In fact, I noticed when watching a lesbian scene in a movie we were watching, SHE WAS VERY VERY WET! Odd also that (I believe) most women find the idea of male on male very unattractive. But yet , MEN find the idea of woman on woman very erotic.
There seems to be a more general acceptance of Fe-Fe relations than M-M. I know on two occasions There were two (very attractive) young ladies making out (putting on a public display-they knew we were all watching) at a local bar-with other woman in attendance- that I sometimes frequent. NO-one seemed to mind at all. In fact, most found it entertaining - if not erotic. I have no doubt that if it were two men, there would have been a BIG problem. I might also add that if the women were ugly, butch, or homely looking they would not have been as well accepted. THEY probably would have been asked to leave.
Getting back to the specific topic, I think that if women could stomache it, THEY would be the ones that could possibly learn from watchng M-M gay sex. I suppose men would know best what turns a man on. I don't need to know what turns a man on. I have watched F-F video's (a few-lol) . For a STRICTLY educational viewpoint. (honest!) -lol. If you ever want to know what turns a woman on most, learn from watching what women do to eachother.
for a man, was very hard to click on a page that had TWO men embracing eachother(but I had to put my two cents in). I noticed no-one else has been here-.......YET? But I'm curious for imput on what my observations and understanding are. ANYONE???
